I've heard way more than once in my life,that a man should watch how a woman treats her father (kindness, respect) because theres a very good chance, he will be treated the same, and on the same note, a woman should watch how a man treats his mother?
I'm dating a lady who is usually very mean and disrespectful, no matter what you do, or what you do for her! She dosen't even get along with her family, and she hates her dad. She really dosen't get along with anyone for to long! I love her very much, and she does have some good qualities, but she always thinks everyone is against her . (out to screw her over) She acts as if she miserable most of the time and constant drama follows her! She has problems with everyone at one time or another, and she'll never admitt if she is wrong, even if there is proof staring her in the face! Everything that she downs someone else for is a exact desciption of her own actions and faults, as she'll always blame someone else! HELP!!
2006-10-17 20:34:47 · 10 answers · asked by arnnex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to leave that girl, shes too much drama for any guy
2006-10-17 20:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Southie9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out QUICK!
I am not sure if it is true. . but why would you ask that question if you already know that your GF is a basket case? I am married for 35 years with a woman who did not like her father. But he left when she was very young. . .so there is no telling how she would have treated him. But in your case. . .this girl sounds like she needs therapy. . .LIKE RIGHT NOW! My bet is she has history, (of some sort of abuse) and is lashing out in all directions. She is certainly miserable with herself and the way she is behaving. If you do not want to leave her. . .get her help. . .or you will be become a constant target. Good luck!
2006-10-17 20:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by zambranoray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A man needs to take notice of how a woman treats anybody. Maybe her father was abusive, maybe he has hurt her deeply, and she doesn't know how to be kind to him after the pain he has caused her. It doesn't seem like you know your lady very well. People tend to hide dark secrets from those whom they love outside of their family. They're afraid they will lose you because inside themselves, they blame themselves. "What did I do wrong?" Why did Daddy do this to me?" "I'm afraid" You need to get in touch with her inside, let her know you are there, and will not desert her as maybe she thinks her parents have. She sounds like a very frightened lady. You may be the only one to help her. I know because I am like her in a lot of ways, from what you have said, but I dont realize it until later. I had a very hard childhood, and no help. To this day I have panic attacks, and anxiety. Please be patient with her and give her the chance I never had. You will be highly respected for your patience and your fortitude. It's a hard road we must travel, but at the end of the road there is great glory.
2016-05-21 22:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take that advice with a grain of salt, especially if you are someone who wouldn't want someone to compare their relationship with you as being the same as with your mother.
On the other hand, if you are serious about this girl, then her family will inevitably be yours too. So really the question is, are you going to be able to pull her out of this paranoia enough that you will be able to get along with her at a dinner table with the rest of your extended family?
If you really think she is "mean and disrespectful" it sounds like perhaps you also think she needs some kind of emotional therapy. Can you convince her to see someone to help her out of her shell?
Good luck with your love.
2006-10-17 20:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by sandra_panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better indication is how she treats you!
She has had years to grow into a relationship with her father, but, the experiences that she shared with him are ones you cant reproduce.
But, if you want a clue on how she is going to look when she is older...just look at her mom!
BTW, why would you want to be with someone like the gal you described? She sounds quite immature and out of control. Maybe a bit bi-polar?
Good Luck.
2006-10-17 20:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and thats vice versa for a female. How you treat your mother is a lot of how you will treat us.
Oh and eventually your woman will get old. She will start to bring you down and eventually make you miserable. Misery loves company!
2006-10-17 20:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea if that's true man, but it seriously sounds like you're just putting yourself through hell. Get away from her! Even though you may love her, the feelings aren't being reciprocated, and that's never any fun
2006-10-17 20:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by High On Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But you said you are dating her.These types are really hard to get on. Any way its up to you to decide.
2006-10-17 20:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by 007james bond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How she treats others is definitely a sign of how she will probably treat you.
2006-10-17 20:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes
2006-10-17 20:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋