What would you do in this Dilemma.?

Question

I am married to a man that I love more than anything.

I have a child from a previous relationship.(I was very young when i had him.) He is 11

He has a child also. She is 6.

We also have a baby together who is just about to turn one next week.

We have had an easy time of it but for the fact that after i had the baby I got very sick and ended up being diagnosed with having bipolar disorder and was admitted into hospital.

I took my medication and i have managed very well with my medical condition.

I have just found out that i am pregnant again. I am shocked because i must be the most fertile woman in the world. We have been very careful.

So my dilema is this... My husband and i spoke about abortion because we said that we were not going to have anymore children. Now that I am i am starting to think that we could make it work but i know my husband is not going to be cool with this.

Either way I am going to have to go back onto medication. What do you think.

Answer 1

if i were you i would follow my heart.
such a large majority of women almost always regret abortion, spending the rest of their lives beating themselves up.
communicating with your husband is critical for you.
whatever you decide to do make it quick.
talk to your doctor about your medical condition and how it will affect a pregnancy visa versa.

Answer 2

It depends upon how you felt about abortion before this. If you have been adamantly against this before now, then you will have a very difficult time if you have one.

If you have not been against abortion in the past, then you will have a better time dealing with it, if you decide to have an abortion.

If you are managing now with your three children, you should be able to handle a fourth, but that is your decision to make.

Is your medication something that will harm the baby if you take it while pregnant? That is something to check into.

You said you would need to go back on medication. Are you off any medication now? Hopefully you are under a doctor's care for your bipolar illness and he can help you make these decisions.

Good luck to you. I know it will be a hard decision to make.

Answer 3

You obviously want this child and should have a serious discussion with your husband about it. Abortion is such a cruel thing, in my opinion. The child did not ask to be conceived and should not pay the ultimate price for it. Would you kill your other children? I think not. But, more than anything, just know that your husband will probably support you in any decision that you make, so long as you let him be part of the decision with you. Talk about every up and down of having the baby or aborting. And think about how aborting your child will affect the rest of your life. Good luck on your quest to finding the right solution for you and your family. I know it will be difficult.

Answer 4

You really need to talk with your husband about wanting to keep this pregnancy. Tell him you won't feel right aborting it, and that having this baby will be a good thing. As for you medical condition, it would be the best thing for you to keep this pregnancy, and thank god that you have been managing it with good results.

Best of luck to the both of you.

Answer 5

For starters, talk to your doctor about what your medication will do to a developing baby. Also find out what will happen to you if you need to go off meds in order to complete a pregnancy. Real information will help you make a decision. Good luck.

Answer 6

DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION!! Even if your husband doesn't want another child, this is still his child, it's YOUR child. It's your children's little brother or sister. It's a life, right now it's your sweet little baby. If you don't think you can handle another one, PLEASE PLEASE give the baby up for adoption. There are so many many people who want children that can't have them. There are also lots of parents who are on medication, doesn't make you a bad parent, it makes you a RESPONSIBLE ONE!!! Please keep this precious gift that God has blessed you with!