He always walks around the house naked after a shower, presumeably to show off his 'massive weapon' he talks up so often. He never goes grocery shopping, he never cooks, he is tidy and doesn't make a mess but he doesnt do the dishes. He always pays his rent on time, and organizes cool parties for us to have. The problem is that he is my best friend and he brings a lot to our living arrangement but he also is really trying at times. We all go to university and we are having to come home and do all the cooking and cleaning while he runs around the house naked, throwing the rubber duck into the saucepan at every oppertunity. We are really busy and don't have time to cook, go shopping, and do our work, while he simply coasts through. Although cooking and shopping aren't that major deal, we can't kick him out either. What should I do? I need some advice because I am really lost as to a solution.
2006-10-17 20:23:20 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all FUC*K YOU Annie and augy. Secondly, I told him he wasn't allowed to walk around the house naked anymore and he walked into the kitchen again after he had a shower pretending to ask some kind of lame question. I spun up a tea towel and flicked it at him and it hit him right on the knob. LOL it was so funny. I don't think he'll do it again in a hurry. I did say that means his girlfriend has to walk around naked too but he said he and she would be fine with that. Can't win them all
2006-10-17 22:30:14 · update #1
tell him if he wants to walk around naked his gf has to also. might as well get something out of the deal if not then he will stop. as for the cooking and other stuff damn bro he pays the pills and on time i would just love for my roomate to pay me ontime and half the time its only half the money he owes good thing for him im financially sounds (thanx mom and dad). or stock up on ramen noodles and canned soup. like all the other college kids.
2006-10-17 20:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by bigpoppa_2x@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is pushing boundaries all over the place. What kind of "best friend" takes advantage like this?
If you didn't start out with some house rules, do it NOW. Outline what's acceptable, what isn't and identify where compromises are possible (he can walk around nakie all he likes when he's alone. When anyone else is in the house, he gets dressed. His behavior could be considered a form of sexual harrassment and nobody has to tolerate that.
You don't have to be a dictator to stand firm. But if you don't let him know there's a problem, he's not going to change.
As for the cooking, if he doesn't cook, he doesn't eat. If he throws the rubber duck into the saucepan, he gets a rubber duck for dinner and kicks in an extra $5.00 to compensate for contaminating everyone's food.
What's the matter with this guy? And for pete's sake, those of you who live with him need to develop a backbone and tell him to grow up NOW.
2006-10-17 20:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting and kinda funny situation you have yourself in. I understand you may be locked into a contract of some sort with your living arrangements and at the same time don't want to lose a good naked friend: - ) He probably does throw some cool parties but you should also talk to him in person and try try to make him aware of how retarded it is to walk around the house naked. I wouldn't want my girlfriend seeing my close friend walk around naked...tell him that. Or just have yourself and the other roommates either embarass him or tell him that he's getting kicked out if he doesn't (white lie). Act like you guys mean it and he just might change those ways boy!!!
2006-10-17 20:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by groomdrylakebed@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a sit down talk with all three of you. (make him put clothes on to participate)
Tell him you appreciate him as a friend and what he has done to contribute to your household yet a bit more may still be needed. However, you must also tell him that his "weapon" may cause reason to be applauded, there is still no excuse to be constantly nude if no one else calls for that situation to not become offensive and/or distracting. If he refuses, you may have to dangle the decision in front of him that it isn't worth dealing with anymore and he might have to find a new place to live. But be careful in hurting feelings in a tie of friendship. Make sure that whatever you say is delivered in the same understanding that you're still friends and want to work this out so everyone is happy.
2006-10-17 20:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the whole group together and call a meeting. Tell him openly and honestly how it makes you guys feel about him walking around naked and not pulling his weight in the commune. When he sees that he is affecting everybody then he will make the effort to accommodate you guys. Before calling the meeting be sure to talk to him first and tell him that you are going to call a meeting and so that the others also get an opportunity to express their views. To make any relationship a success. Whether it be friendship, marraige, collegues or a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship there has to be communication, honesty and respect when it comes to making things work. Best of luck amigo.
2006-10-17 20:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him sit down and discuss these things out right with him, your concerns that is. Also tell him there need s to be some guide rules to follow. In all aspects he must pull his fair share.Cooking etc.
Make it mandatory his clothes stay on at all times except when in the shower. If he chooses to do other wise he needs to move because it is not acceptable. This is like a family unit but with the clothes left on. Be firm about this.
2006-10-17 20:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't change. You will either have to accept his lack of work around the house or get rid of him. However, the naked part is something else. That is disgusting. How does your girlfriend feel about it? Does it make her uncomfortable? More importantly, how does his girlfriend feel about it?
Try talking to him about both at first and see if it does any good. If not, you will have to decide whether you are better off with or without him.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 20:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
İt's really hard to stay with friends in the same house.I know,I was there once.What you can do is just talk to him first.İf he's your best friend I am sure he would understand.Would you and your girlfriend would be able to move out and get your own place? İf not,I think there's not much to do but have a talk and hope for things to get better.I hope it works out well for both of you :-) Good luck!
2006-10-17 20:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up and get some clothes on. Tell him you don't appreciate him being naked in front of your girl friend and you would like it if he helped more around the house instead of talk about his penis size.
2006-10-17 20:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing you can do is talk to him yourself or get everyone in your house together and talk to him like a house meeting. Or talk to his girlfriend and ask her to deal with it. But The only real advice i have for you is talk specially since you do not want to kick him out. Talking is your only real solution
2006-10-17 20:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋