im in true love ...he was my bst frnd for long and he understands me lot and i know ill be very happy wit him i cant live witout him but now the prob is wit my parents how will i tell them abt this and they dont like me being in relationship ..they trust me lotz and they knw i wont let them down...being an indian i knw my values .i dont knw what to do ...
2006-10-17 19:41:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am an Indian too...
And I know what youre facing right now ... And Trust me .. its not a difficult situation.
Indian parents are usually worried becoz of too much globalisation of thoughts and values. Agreed this has caused destruction to a certain extent due to open acceptance by our culture, but they are not worried about that but you.
Youre their daughter, which makes the situation more difficult for them to accept youre in a relationship before marraige (its slightly similar with sons too). However this can be dealt with.. But only with a LOT OF HARD WORK from YOUR end.
First try understanding your parents concern... They are not totally wrong
Parents know that one day you'll need to get married. and till that time they get over protective about you. That can be dealt with , by projecting yourself as a responsible and mature girl.
Grow yourself : Concentrate on your studies (if youre studying), get good grades and make them realise you know what you want from life.. Learn more things and add good attributes to your persona... This will make you a better choice and your parent will be proud........Impress your parents by speaking to them about life and your perspective and try knowing their perspective too.. Its always better to know your parent in order to decide how are you gonna put forth that youre serious about a boy.
Be very honest and responsilble in your approach. As you do these you'll yourself realise whats good for you.
Explore yourself.. know more about your likes and dislikes ... then try knowing your partners like and dislikes his patterns and ways of life .... Ask him about his goals in life ....see if you can adjust with them ... try connecting to him emotionally .. develop faith in him for the relationship... See if he can adjust to your needs and comfort...
Married life is all about adjustments. So if you guys are ready for it before marraige .. I m sure your married life will become one blessing.
If all these are acheived whole heartedly and with utmost honesty ...and you feel this guy is really the best choice for you then go ahead as follows:
Try introducing him to your parents as a friend... Be very casual and dont give them a shock... Make it a casual meeting.. and if it goes well then.. try for such meetups regularly. Go slow, dont make them worried. Go out with him with a group of friends initially(good number of females to make your parents feel assured)..
Let them know him better ... if you project him right, your parents themselves will understand your feeling and will try to know him better ... but this can only be done if they think that you'er mature enough to make a right choice..
Though they'll put him through a lot of acid test, but he needs to go through em coz youre worth it... or atleast you'll make yourself to be by following all thats mentioned above... If your parents feel the guy is right for you .. then they wont mind your friendship... thats half battle won.
Marraige is a composite responsibility , hence even he'll have to come ahead and work hard to acheive you ... He'll have to have a secured life and project himself best ... So make sure he does , coz you cant handle everything on your own.
I know how youre parents feel ... infact I am going through a similar situation myself ...
To get what you want in life is the best boon you can ask for ... But always remember that everything is acheivable with proper approach ... After all they are your parents not enemies..
Best of luck
2006-10-17 20:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont keep it from them, they will eventually find out and then they will be really mad because you didnt tell them. if he has been your best friend for a long time and you tell your parents that they have nothing to worry about then hopefully there love and trust for you will make them see that it is ok.
2006-10-18 02:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by caressbunch24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
point blank. honesty. mom dad i FEEL that you will be upset or angry(whatever word fits best) but i am dating my best friend. ad a little drama and make them feel like they are untrusting of you. and explain that you have no plans to makeout or jump in the sack until you morals are met. good luck
2006-10-18 02:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by zoiella000000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it from them.
2006-10-18 02:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Read n' Write 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋