There's this guy who is 17yrs my senior. Married whth 2 kids. We work together. We have been hanging out and all. We have not had sex but we've done everthing else.
Does that mean I am having an affair?
2006-10-17 19:39:16 · 13 answers · asked by tolduso83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anytime you have just a thought of another man with pleasurable ideals being alone and feelings running away with themselves,yes this is a form of cheating or having an affair.It is not always having intercourse that makes it the only way to be in an affair.Which i would really look at this situation very closely,someone will go farther and someone will pay the price with the hurt and pain of this whole issue.It would be one thing to be divorced and to proceed,but this is not the case,at least you have made no mention of being so.It is not wrong to have feelings,and i do understand that feelings of these kind of emotions can just come all of a sudden,and even if it was dinner,it is still wrong.I know how i would feel if my husband was doing other things with a female co-worker and forgetting his home life.I am sure you as many women would agree on this as well.It is not cool.Again,someone,possibly you can come out with alot of pain and sorrow from this.I hope it will never be you,but again you need to look at this hard and with wisdom from your heart.Good Luck to you on your choosing on what is best for you and all that is involved,and try to put your shoes in the other persons shoes for just a second,because this is definitely an affair of the heart,which will lead to more.Best wishes!
2006-10-17 19:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep it does. Any time you are with a married man with a family, and doing anything in a sexual or emotional manner with him. Then it is most definitely an affair. You said it wasn't sex but it was everything else. Still means you are doing sexual acts that are pleasing him. Him being the man that is not your legal man. But someone else's. You really should stop now before you get too caught up in this. Cuz if you don't you will get that other woman syndrome and expect him to leave his wife, and that just wont happen.
2006-10-18 02:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No u are friends now asnd u did't give your age and he's 17 to 2 kids some like hes a looser already meet his wife cause u don't want to get into deep.
2006-10-18 02:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you ask a question you already know the answer to??? Are you bored because your sweetie with the mid-life crisis is at home with his wife and family, or does that matter???
2006-10-18 02:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes that would be having an affair, im sorry but thats pretty messed up that you are hooking up with that guy and you know he is married.
2006-10-18 02:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by papiocutie86 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's you who can answer your question. Or let me rephrase! You're not posting your question here if you know you aren't having an affair with him.
2006-10-18 02:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by peperoni 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have to say yes as well --- an affair is not about sex its wanting to be with someone other than your partner
2006-10-18 02:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. this does NOT mean you're having an affair.
2006-10-18 02:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, of course you are why did you even ask. He's married with kids doesn't it bother you that your messing with another woman's husband.
2006-10-18 02:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by albert c 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes & u know it...
stop messing with someone else family..
it morally wrong & a sin too
2006-10-18 02:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by fallforniky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋