It seems that ever since a yr ago after i broke up, i cant fall in love anymore. Every now and then there are still people wooing, but the feeling is just different. I just cannot take a step further even when the feelings are mutual. Can someone help?
2006-10-17 19:22:07 · 17 answers · asked by Princess is here 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is not because that i am so in love with my ex, is long over and i understand that. the problem is that you cant find back the feeling of love, no more sparks or butterflies in my stomach for any guyz.
2006-10-17 22:07:47 · update #1
I feel that it is bcoz the fear factor that is present in you that made you rekuctant to take a step further as you worrry that the next relationship is also a failure.
Basically I don't know what causes your last relationship to fail but it seems to me that you have lost confidence in either yourself or the guys. There are people who have this type of phobia once they have a unsuccessful relationship or unhappy relationship.
Give yourself some times to heal the wound and pick up yourself. Don't force yourself into a new relationship if you are not prepare as any failure will cause more hurt to you.
2006-10-18 00:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the very same way too. I lost my first true love in a car accident quite a few years ago I never thought of ever feeling the same way about anyone ever again. But 8/12 years ago this woman came into my life with 3 children. I liked her so i took a chance and today were still together and i love her and her children more than anything in this world. So don't give up.
2006-10-18 03:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by albert c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the similar situation as you, but in my case, i couldn't find the type of feelings and emotions i had before. I moved on, got over with my ex, don't love her anymore but the feelings and emotions didn't recover.
People said time can heal but I don't really believe that. It's proven for me. All I can hope for is to meet the true girl I can love to heal my feelings. That's probably the only way.
I'm sure you can find the right guy for you. He will help you fall in love again. Don't worry.
2006-10-18 05:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 3 years since my ex-bf left me...it's not so much that I can't fall in love as I won't let myself. Or maybe I can't, I don't know. I guess I haven't let myself get to the point of falling in love even being an option. We were together 10 years and he was one of the few people I've ever trusted in my life...kind of reinforced my fear of trusting people!! Give it more time and hopefully you will fall in love again when the time is right...good luck!!
2006-10-18 02:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that you never forget your first love and this may be true. I think that you still have feelings for your ex and this is holding you back. Maybe a truly amazing person is right there but you dont even realize it. Just trust yourself to take the next step if you feel you can trust that person enough. Just let go.
2006-10-18 02:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Aztlan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may feel that way and the reason why could be that you have no closure on your last relationship. I'm talking from experience i was married and divorce in 2 yrs and thought i could never love again because my x hurt me really bad but i had to give myself time to heal fully and then i kind of let love find me. it toOK a year to do but you have to let it happen you cant force it or urn for it you have to let it happen remember love yourself first and for most ok i hope you find love and good luck in all you do
2006-10-18 02:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by underwear420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only every person who has been in love and nursed a broken heart. With my daughters father it took me 2 years to fall inlove again.... Right now with that person who showed it was possible to have life after love and to love again.... It's been 2 years and counting.... between the 2 I was left with lots of pieces and more of me figured out. LOL and Prob more picky! Hard to let those guards down.
2006-10-18 02:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by SunRise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty normal... dont worry...
I guess you happen to be seriously hurt (psychologically) from your last break up.
Dont bother yourself about relationships till you really feel to get into one.
Take your time to relax and feel nice about life. Indulge yourself in yoga or other good activities.
Dont push it, or even fall for wooing men. Let true love happen to you on its own..
Love is a great experience. But Life is more than love. See life to its full.
I speak from my own experience.. This was adviced to me by someone elder , and I am passing it to you. Hope it works for you too..
2006-10-18 02:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Still Alive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya... I know and understand that feeling... This guy must mean very important to you.. Though I have a few gf since my 1st love, but I just couldn't get along well with them. I guess coz we still can't let go of the one... So juz relax n be single for sometime.... You may find some1 to replace him...
2006-10-18 04:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's how i felt after i was dumped 2 years ago... i was so in love... i did everything for this person and he left me for someone else... he wasn't even what you would call a good bf... he was... but up 2 the last week i was w/ him... i was actually scared of him... i didn't know him... but i held on cause i love the person he was always hopin.... anyways
what im trying to say is that... when you've been in love... when you thought you were in the safest of place... in the arms of that special person... when everything was right and your heart was whole... and all of a sudden everything became a lie... love also became a lie... love became deceitful... harmful... deadly even... love became a hauntin nightmare to always remind you of the good feelings it gave you but lettin you crash at the end...
so how can you possible fall in love once more "knowin" it's not safe?... i believe there is such thing as love but i didn't believe it was for me anymore... no one could ever touch me the same way... no one could ever say my name in that voice...can ever kiss my lips and take my breath away the way HE did...
the problem is you've got love and your X put together in one thing... you need to seperate those two... since you were in love w/ ur X u associate love w/ him... therefore it only subconsciously exist in him... you need to forget him first hand... you need to create different thots... wen you think of love... don't think of how good it was w/ him... but think of love as beautiful... remember that safety... that warmth... that security and peace... allow your heart to heal... let it free... don't force it into feeling it NEEDS to fall in love but let your heart know that it's a possibility...
love is possible... trust me... in all its beauty... love can make you new
2006-10-18 02:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by ju5sm3h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋