i am in love with my boyfiend for almost three years now but right now he is locked up should i wait?

Question

i love him with all my heart, when i go visit him, he still gives me the chills and the butter flies on my stomach. i feel like nobody could possibly understand what i feel inside for him. to me he is the perfect gentlemen for me. he is the only guy that i ever cried/cry for. when they gave him his sentence it was like somebody shot me in my chest with a gun, my heart was hurting like it had needles, that terrable pain would not go away even today. before he was locked we were only together for two weeks but it was the best time of my whole life...should i stay with him or just move on knowing i can not ever have him again...it will be like some titanic ****...he will be locked for 12 yrs....what should i do?

Answer 1

All the chills and butterflies in the world don't make up for the fact that he's a Criminal, the worse, lowest and most animalistic type of human. You have to ask yourself, What sort of person does it make me that I'm attracted to such a wretch? People are often attracted to someone who is as pathetic as they feel about themselves, like some corrupt politician cruising for filthy prostitutes. You feel like you're a bad person, deserving of punishment, and you find someone just awful enough to accommodate you, and think and feel that's love, because that's all you know, all your parents taught you. But I'm telling you: You can stand up for what's right and be a good person and feel good about yourself.

And 12 years in prison will not make a thoughtful, honest, hard working man out of him, but instead a hardened criminal looking for any edge, any scheme, to take advantage of people and get ahead through violence, just like before. Or worse some sort of fake "born again" moron intent on scamming everyone into thinking he's "changed" until they turn their backs and he's up to his old tricks again. Religion and violence have no problem going hand in hand.

Answer 2

Ignore thoes people with all the negative comments about your boyfriend, they don't know anything that you guys went through. It will be really hard for you to move on right now. If he's really the man of your dreams, and you are certain about that. I'd say stay with him. But 12 years is a long time, you never know that's gonna happen. Your feelings may change during this long period of time, and if that happens, it won't be so hard to break it then. And if you still have very strong feelings for him after, say 5, 8, 10, years, then, the answer is pretty clear. See if your love can stand the test of time. If it really goes, then you both are meant to be together! If you don't have feelings for him after 6 months, or a year, then you'll have to rethink your love for him. I've been dating this guy for 3 years too, I think I know how you feel. It must have been terrible. btw, maybe he can get his sentence reduced?

Answer 3

Honey, a lot can change in 12 years. Absence does not necessarily make the heart grow fonder. Besides when he comes out there may be some residual side affects, like him having a record (I assume he committed a felony, not a misdemeanor) that can make huge hurdles for both of you.

I know this hurts now, but are you sure you want to sentance yourself to 12 years of waiting as well? You did nothing that deserves that type of punishment.

Answer 4

Hung you need to listen to me okay?.. He is locked up and you had only been dating him for 2 weeks, girl ur crazy. imagen this within the years that he has been locked up, imagen that it would not have worked out, you guys havent had the chance to argue and disagree. Trust me he is not worth it. Im going to tell you what to do:

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First : you need to tell him you love him, and tell him you dont want to cheat on him.

now once you have his attention, you bring it in.

Second: Tell him while he is locked up, you need to find out that he is the one, and that is why you need to date other people.. you need to find out that what you feel for him is only for him and you need to be sure that you wont feel it for anyone else, use the time wisely.. if u see other people and nothing works out with all the men you dated imagen how assured you will be when he does come out, you wont have to wonder if he is the one you will know..

What u are doing is stopping your life, you neeed to keep it going lear that your heart can feel the same for another..


be honest to yourself and to him.. let him know how you feel but you cant live like this..

You are young you do not know love.. maybe you think you do..

Twelve years you know how many man you could meet during that time..

hung i had my heart broken before,, and i could not figure out how i was ever gona love again, but intime it healed i began to smile.. i knwo u love him but if you love something so much you have to let it go and if he comes back to you at the right time you know its meant to be.

i hope you find this helpful, good day..

remember one man cannot stop your heart, because without him in your life i bet someone else broke your heart once maybe not so much but just a little. and you thought no one else would be the same..
remeber any lovers from your childhood..
you are meant to be with someone consider this as a sign that he isnt the one, at least for right now.

with love,
ur advisor

Answer 5

You shouldn't wait 12 years for this guy. Move on with your life.

Answer 6

Use that 12 years to find somebody better. Move on with your life. If he was a"perfect gentleman" he wouldn't be in the slammer.

Answer 7

3 weeks versus 12 years just doesn't add up. Chill and butterflys?
You need to move on.....

Answer 8

You should use that 12 years to try to find a decent man.

Answer 9

Fallow your heart and let it guide you. If you truely love him you can do the wait i think.

Answer 10

just move on... hoe many more 12 years do you have?