am i wasting my time just waiting for my price charming? i feel like i had him, but now were broken up because i took him for granted and we felt like we didn't love eachother anymore. But now that hes gone, i feel like ill never love anyone the way i loved him, part of me wants him back but i dont think he wants it, am i still in love with him? he was my first love and we dated for over a year..
2006-10-17 18:59:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont wait for love, let love finds you. and first love never dies like me. id still love him.
2006-10-17 19:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by freakybhabhie28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh, but you probably are wasting your time.
I'm in the exact same situation, so I really know where you're coming from and how painful all of it is. I really don't think I can love somebody like I loved my ex.
The only way to really ever know for sure, is to explain how you feel and see if he feels the same way.
But I had the same problem. I never realized how much I appreciated and missed my ex until he was gone, and now it hurts every day. I know for sure I love him. It seems you may harbor some feelings for him still, but are you sure you two won't end up feeling the same way you did before? If you both felt you didn't love each other, it's unlikely he'll still love you, but there's always still a chance, if you wanna risk it.
If he doesn't return your feelings at all, the best thing to do is to go out and try to meet other guys. It'll be tough, but hopefully we'll find someone who makes us feel just as good or even better, right? Mine was my first love, too, and we dated over a year as well, so I'm in the same boat as you. It takes a lot of time and effort. Not everybody is going to come to you for a date, some people may be too shy.
I hope for the best for you, and I hope things will turn out happily for you :) Good luck.
2006-10-18 02:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Little Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the rule of thumb is that the length of time together = the amount of time it takes to get over it. It's hard to get over someone you loved, but remember, you broke up for a reason. It's always easier to look back and remember all the good times and the moments that made you happy in times like this. The first love is the hardest to lose, but use it as an experience and learn from it. If it's meant to be, true love always comes back to you. Don't be in a hurry to settle for less than you deserve and/or want in a relationship. Until then though, try to stay optimistic and try and avoid those songs that make you think of him :)
2006-10-18 02:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Cort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problems. It's so tough because you just don't want to give up but at the same time, by not giving up and letting go, there is so much stress and pain you keep with you that it becomes unbearable sometimes. I often read a lot or do something to occupy my time because everytime I don't do anything I think about her. I think the best thing to do is to just move on. Moving on does not imply giving up. Right now I am meeting new people and dating other girls and enjoying life, though I still think about that girl from time to time, but who knows, maybe one day she realizes what she missed, but in the meantime, I guess it's best to keep occupied and who knows, maybe you meet someone even better?
2006-10-18 02:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reason why you two broke up was because you two didn't belong to each other. I believe that everyone has a soul mate and that if the time is just right, you'll meet him. That's what I believe, but if you are patient, he'll come. But before you get into a relationship, really set your mind to what you really want and not to the superficial things.
2006-10-18 02:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We, Russians, say "suffering is cleaning the soul". Love requires a lot of patience. You should survive this. You should survive whatever life brings, either good or bad. First love is the most painful, I know, you can hardly believe but you will survive the second...maybe even the third love in your life. They will not be as strong as the first...my first love is dead...but I have to live anyway. You know, life is longer than love...
2006-10-18 02:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by gkolesova 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly one thing that had remind me between my first love!
untill now i still remember my first love but i wont get it back as ussual,i prefer broke up!past is already past nothing can change accept u want it back or u want to make a miracle!you still love him or not i nt sure bt how long did you brek with him?this can be problem!if just nt long maybe there just got to many memory upon you and him!that may take time to forget it!all are happen it happen already or else you both still love each others?you need to get it truly!if not still have the love wordswith each others there just memories only!
2006-10-18 02:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by venice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need someone to hold on to that's all. Your thinking of him because he is the only guy you ever been with. It also sounds like your in pain going through this. Feeling pain in relationships is part of life you can't deny it. Nothing is perfect. Just do what your heart ask you to do. Dont forget it never hurts to try something else.
2006-10-18 02:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Xero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First loves are always the hardest to let go of. You need to work on yourself so that you are ready when Mr. Right does come along. Go to school, work hard, volunteer in your community or church, get a hobby, hang out with friends...keep busy. Live life fully and enjoy a good book or bubble bath....
2006-10-18 02:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a natural feeling of newlybroke up relationship...pains hurts,,... longing emotionally disturb.... cries to maximum level... but as you go along or as time flies you will let go... Make that experience your strenght to make you stronger. Do mourn for the lost love but dont linger on it.. what has been done could not undone....the longing of getting him back would subside later.., Get it from me....Divert your attention to some other productive activities.... Cheer up... smile and the world will smile with you . Later on you could talk out that experienced relationship with a smile....
2006-10-18 02:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by jane u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we get that chance 2 or 3 times in life !!! so try to move on from this one, another one will come along real soon, i know It's hard because you put in a year and something with this guy, but look at it this away I'm sure he has moved on with his life and so should you!! Good Luck Dear And Good Night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 02:20:58 · answer #11 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋