I'm so proud that I have a loving and caring boyfriend however my mom does not like him because he is not a college graduant..and this is our main problem as of this moment.
2006-10-17 18:51:14 · 13 answers · asked by florj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't convince your mom to accept your b/f. She either will or won't. Speaking as a mother, my daughters have dated guys I don't like for one reason or another. At times I've changed my mind about the guy's in question, at times I haven't. It doesn't really matter what my opinion of them is. I'm NOT the one dating them.
2006-10-17 18:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is being overly critical. Make her see that. Just because he isn't a college graduate now, doesn't mean he can't go back! She should be happy for you, although he may not be what she has always imagined in the perfect man for you. She needs to realize the truth: there is no perfect man. Someday you'll start your own family, possibly with this guy, and if she doesn't accept this guy she'll miss out on that family. Make her see that.
2006-10-17 19:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be another reason as to why your Mom doesn't like him. Is he disrespectful? Rude? Inconsiderate? with you or her. She loves you and she's protecting you from him. Does he have a job? Is he planning to go to college? Have you gone to college? has she? Try to view the situation as an outsider looking in, what do you see? Is he good enough for you? Are you settling for him because you don't want to be without a boyfriend and you don't think you could get/deserve better? Think about it. Best Wishes and Good Luck!
2006-10-17 19:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good luck some moms never accept there kids, spouses or boyfriends,i think if it lasts then she will learn to like him,as a mom i had a hard time with my daughter in law for along time..We are two very different kinds of people and at first i just wanted her gone, but i`ve accepted her and if she makes my son happy and she does then i respect them and have learnt to accept her ways.so i wish you luck
2006-10-17 18:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a mother-daughter talk. Talk to her seriously and maturely about this guy and that he is someone you really care about. If she sees how serious and mature you are, then she'll see how much you have already thought about it. Your mom only wants the best for you and doesn't want to see you get hurt. When you enter the talk with her, get into it with the mindest that your mom CARES and that she's only against this guy because she LOVES you.
Bring this guy home for dinner to meet your mom :)
2006-10-17 18:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother does not have to like him. She does not have to marry him. It is between you and him. If he is loving and caring and has a decent job and can take care of you decently. There should be no problem. She will just have to accept him or lose her daughter. Most mothers come around when they see that the guy is here to stay.
2006-10-17 19:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats the only problem she is WRONG. There are plenty of jobs that make some serious $$$$$$$. You need to make her feel good about him. Keep one thing in mind: Parents NEVER want to hurt you. If she keeps on like this with major reason..... listen to her and make a wise decision ,... thats what it comes to at the end: YOUR decision.
2006-10-17 19:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the adventure that your mum and dad are that against him and that they are figuring out to purchase your college, then you extremely could destroy it off with him till you leave for college. you are able to see one yet another in college and events and stuff. It does sound like they do no longer prefer you with him because of the fact he's no longer Asian. it rather is one in all those shame that everybody is that way. carry abode a intense high quality Asian boy and notice in the event that they alter their thoughts. in case you marry this boy and characteristic babies with him, are you waiting for a good style of years of your mum and dad expressing their sadness? they're going to come around at last, yet you are going to be 50 by ability of then. Lot to contemplate... sturdy luck.
2016-10-02 10:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter... i've found that writing down things has a much greater impact on someone than just saying them. Write about all the wonderful things your boyfriend does do, and how he helps you to be a better person. Hopefully this helps!
2006-10-17 19:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Christie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't .
Just live your life. If he is real nice, loving and caring like you say, she'll come around in time. Just go on with your life.
Now if you are one of those that have to mother's approval for everything you do, do that poor guy a favor and leave him now.
2006-10-17 20:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by missnuarlens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋