my stepsister is going to near the town that i live in on a business trip and i haven't seen her for five years. I don't necessarily miss her, nor have i kept in touch with her. Her mother (my stepmother) and I don't talk and never really got along well. When we were kids, I got the impression that she thought i was annoying and stupid. I'm not sure weather I should go out of my way to see her or if she even wants to see me. I wouldn't mind catching up with her, but I don't want it to be majorly awkward for either of us. Should I make the effort and call her .. or should i just forget about it. I don't know.
2006-10-17 18:36:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes you should. People change, and even if you had difficulty with her in school, Life now is much different. Extending an olive branch is always the right move, you might even find that your relationship with her and your step mother improve with the elimination of old baggage. My step sister and I have an awesome relationship because we keep in touch, even though My Dad is no longer married to her Mother. That has nothing to do with my Sis.
2006-10-17 18:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Paul S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will regret it if you don't take this opportunity to see her. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain. You will either find that you have nothing in common, and so you'll part ways again, or you will find that you have some shared thoughts and feelings to talk about. Perhaps she had the impression that you didn't care for her back then. There's a lot to learn. It sounds like she is reaching out to you. Why would she do that if she did not feel that there was some kind of connection? Explore the possibilities.
2006-10-18 01:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its always good to take the high road. Extending an olive branch to mend over a rocky relationship, or to create a relationship that never really existed can be wonderful. Sometimes nothing comes of it, and thats ok, but sometimes a special relationship results. I'd suggest you go to any personal support forum on the web to post this question and interact with people a bit more on it. This way it is annoymous and you get more instant feed back. If you don't know of any, I'd suggest:
A womans support forum:
http://www.ladymajora.com
Personal Support Forums at LWS:
http://forums.livingwithstyle.com/f23/
2006-10-18 01:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by R S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like deep down you want to see her. It may be for memories or it may be to show her your not as ignorant as she once may have thought. Things change when you grow up. E mail or call her and see if she may be willing to meet you half way at a nice place for lunch. This should speak volumes if she accepts or declines. She may decline since her schedule is tight but really express the desire to see you as well. Play it by ear. Hold out the first hand you may have a very dear friend. Childhood can be awkward for all involved. SHe may miss you more than you give her credit for.
2006-10-18 01:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by celtic_maiden_6904 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call her! She is family! Granted, you aren't related by blood, but you are still related and it's always good to see family, dear. If you do call her, and she says no, then don't get upset about it, try to catch up with her on the phone instead. If she says yes, it shouldn't be that awkward! Things have changed, probably for the betters since you were kids.
2006-10-18 01:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by sadomasochistic.angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go see her, for all you know she is a completely different person now, i mean, alot can change in five years. You might get to like her. :) That said, don't do anything you don't want to.
Good luck.
2006-10-18 01:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a call You never know, she might want to see you as well. It doesn't matter if it's full, half, or even step, family is family. And without family a person has nothing.
2006-10-18 01:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and tell her that you heard she was gonna be in your neck of the woods and you thought you might call her and say Hi, DO NOT offer to catch up, you made the effort to phone and say hi and she meet you half way but asking to catch up. If she doesn't shrug it off, you're tooo good for crap like that and you don't need it in your life! Right?
2006-10-18 01:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to even a little bit, then go for it. It doesn't sound like you're going to lose anything by meeting up with her. You're not making any huge commitment or anything and maybe you'll even hit it off with her.
2006-10-18 01:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think it would be a lose if you tried and did not get anywhere you might call her and find out that she want to see you, you don't know till you try or you can set back and wonder what if
2006-10-18 01:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Casey P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋