My daughter’s father hasn't seen her for over 2 years, I know he loves her and her biggest wish is to see him & for him to come here to see her in her environment, with her friends… since the other 3 times was me taking her to him. (he lives several states away) We'd been planning on them (both him and his wife) to come here for her birthday... more than anything she wants him here for it... I had said I would try to help... His wife a week ago told me they would definitely be able to buy at least 1 ticket… well, when I said I couldn't help due to bills both he & her were aware of the situation, and even though they fully know I'm not a threat...He's not coming... A week ago had money for a ticket, now no? he was really edgy telling me.....I don't know... What I do know this is the 3rd time of him trying telling me one way or another he was going to be here for our daughter, and he doesn't come through....
2006-10-17 18:26:37 · 4 answers · asked by SunRise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is a grown man and can make decisions but I'm sure his wife has a say so as to what she wants and he's ripped down the middle. Talk to his wife, and point out that it's a brief visit and she'll only be a child for a little while. Maybe she sees you as a threat if she can't afford to be there with him. The bond the two of you have with your daughter is something she can not compete with no matter what she does. She is only causing bitter feelings toward herself from him by forcing him to choose. Try to make arrangements for your daughter to spend time with her Daddy on her turf as soon as they can save up, to come together, then have another get together or party with your daughters friends so they can meet him.
2006-10-17 18:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by DB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately current wives hold the most influence over their men, shes no doubt gone and said something to push him in the corner and perhaps choose. I know now from a similar experience that the only thing you have control over is the decisions you make for yourself and your daughter, the only thing you can do with him is explain to him how you are concerned that his decisions are going to lead to your daughter feeling rejected and eventually resenting him.
As mum - Make it the best birthday ever!
2006-10-18 01:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like someone is going to have to tell the daughter that dad won't be coming-ever. Maybe stop this game of "will he -won't he" and tell the girl dad won't be coming for at least 8 years and to not expect it. Stop expecting him at all, and let it go. The only other option is for you to move closer to him.
2006-10-18 01:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with his wife...That is his child and if he really wanted to see her, he would do everything in his power to do so. If his wife is trying to keep him away from his own child then she really doesn't love him does she?
2006-10-18 01:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by hwall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋