Just for FUN
My FI family is driving me nuts, they ask me wedding questions just to put me down.
His one sister keeps complaining about how much money we are wasting... because she jeolous she never had a wedding and her babies dad is in jail.
His other sister tried to give me a "moral" lecture on how wrong I am for not allowing children at my wedding.... did I mention she has two kids and she not married!
LOL- just for fun tell me all your great horror stories!!
2006-10-17 17:53:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
IT IS NOT NOT NOT rude to NOT have kids at your wedding. I am not having kids at mine. I AM providing free childcare though for those who cannot make other arrangements or are out of town. So people need to get over that. Weddings are for the BRIDE and GROOM to share that day with whoever THEY choose.
My inlaws have never had a normal wedding in the family. They are Mormon and live in Salt Lake. I am not Mormon and my finacee really isnt either. They aren't trying to convert me or anything but I am actually trying to involve my future MIL and its like she ignores me. She asks me what she can do to help out and then I dont hear anything back from her. I give her my number and she wont call me. I email her sample menus and prices for the rehearsal dinner (the ONLY thing that they have to take care of) and tell her the deposit needs to be put down. I hear from her like once every three weeks. I wasnt even invited to my fiancee's sister's wedding even though we had been together longer than his sister and her fiancee BUT when she had a reception in her home town, guess who did 12 hours worth of WORK, ME. I didnt even get to enjoy the reception I helped put together. To top it all off I was caffeine, alcohol, and sleep deprived. I am not an alcoholic or anything but damn, one glass of wine at dinner would have been nice.
They all got married in the temple and even though they are somewhat familiar with traditional weddings this is the first one in their immediate family so I feel like there is this HUGE barrier. Like when I emailed her a pic of my dress I was worried what she would think about it being strapless and corsetted. They are just so conservative and its like walking on eggshells when we see them (we live in TX so its not often) I never know what I might say or do that lets them know we live together, drink, have premarital sex, and lead normal consenting adult lives. It wouldnt be so bad if my fiancee had some balls and let his family know what's up. Let them treat us like the adults we are. They dont have to like it but hell a little respect would be nice.
2006-10-17 20:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd like to tell a horror story, but the truth is my in-laws paid for the wedding and my MIL did practically all the planning (with the help of a wedding planner) because my fiance and I were both in the Air Force and we were having the wedding at my in-laws' home, which was 100 miles away.
I had totally great in-laws....in fact, I have had TWO great MILs, because my husband's mother died and his dad remarried about five years later to another great lady. (Luckily, my husband was an only child so I didn't have to worry about that. *L*)
Sorry, couldn't resist the chance to present the "other side."
2006-10-18 01:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by dreamweaver.629ok 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the opposite problem. We think that the whole wedding thing is a farce and we are more interested in just being married. We are just going to find a place one weekend and go tie the knot. The rest of the family think that we should be inviting them all and having a reception and all the cr*p that most people do.
Too many people focus on the one day & not the lifetime ahead so we are ignoring all of them & running away to get married without any of them knowing. We are adults & as much as we love them all, it's our day, not theirs.
2006-10-18 01:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well. first off all its your and his wedding... since when did it become THIER wedding?
I didn't have children at my wedding either.. This is your day.
This is what i said to mine.. This is my wedding you can either shut up about and come and have a good time or don't bother coming because you'll be asked to leave.
Sometimes.. you just gotta bite.
2006-10-18 01:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by dee luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to have their say in everything who we get to cater
But don't want to pay for anything.
They don't think it is necsasry for a big fancy wedding because they never had one so no on e else does.
They got married by a J.P had only 2 witnesses and had A&W For their supper
They are so so INSANE !!!
2006-10-18 02:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean both families do not like my dress or the fact that we want it to be in the park every idea i come up with is not right and i am planning to early the wedding is in may 2007
2006-10-18 01:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by GINA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're making last minute changes and making me deal with them and they, who haven't been involved in our wedding for a year, want to run the show.
Driving me CrAzY!
2006-10-18 01:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.
LOL it is really rude of you to not have kids at your wedding. Weddings are for families and for fun LOL
2006-10-18 01:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
= ) they dont know yet, but I am sure i will have trouble with some things. I know I like expensive items and I do have expensive taste, and I am sure they will tell us to cut back on things that they think we wont need. HOWEVER we are paying for everything so their opnion wont matter, and that's how our troubles will begin.....
2006-10-18 04:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NICE, starting early on the in laws.
2006-10-18 00:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by treday25 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋