Okay, our parties were Saturday and we both had a great time. I didn't really want him to go to the strip club but he did for about an hour with his buds. I'm bummed but I wonder if it's okay to get over because both his best man and him called and told me before they even went that night. He was even home by 11 and said he appreciated me more after he went because they girls weren't as attractive as he thought.
Would you try to move on or be upset (still after 4 days) even though he was straight forward and truthful both before and after he went, the night wasn't centered around it and didn't spend but about $12?
2006-10-17 17:53:24 · 19 answers · asked by bridetobebrandie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that sounds like he didnt really do a whole lot there. saw a few plastic boobies, and went home to the woman he loves. not a big thing. has he ever seen an angelina jolie movie? thats almost the same. she's always nude for some reason.
i personally wont be going to a strip club before i'm married, mostly because i dont want to, but also because i'm pretty sure i wouldnt be comfortable with my special lady having some naked guy grinding on her, so how could i turn around and do the same thing?
and, btw, theres a huge difference between what male strippers and female strippers are like. the girls that he went and saw are just there to take his $12, and theres some big dude watching them the whole time to make sure that when someone crosses the line they get their teeth knocked out. so, trust me, nothing happened. if he really wanted to be with a bunch of strippers, he would be, but he's not. he's with you, he loves you, you love him, and theres nothing to worry about. congrats on gettin' hitched!
2006-10-17 18:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by hellion210 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it personally, millions of guys go out to strip clubs for their bachelor parties. It's their last night of being a "free man" and become loving, wonderful husbands! If you're really that uncomfortable with it though, enough to post about it on Yahoo Answers, then I would have a serious conversation with him. Don't be obnoxious or irrational in your thinking. Meet in the middle somehow.
2016-03-28 13:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way.
1. Do you love him ?
2. Does he really love you ?
3. Do you trust him on what had happened ?
4. If he is the right person for you for the next several decades of your life, so what he made a mistake on one night out before you get married.
One way to look at it, this is a beginning of your new live with him. should you look forward to the whatever challenges you two have together. Or do you want to carry something that may be very very nothing into your new live together. You are just day 1 of your marriage live. Let him be a boy for one last time if he really is your Mr. right. Now, after marriage, and he still do the same thing, beat him up!
2006-10-17 18:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
Going to a strip club is the most traditional bachelor party I can think of, and your husband-to-be sounds like he did it very gracefully- home by 11, spent only $12, telling you his plans, and then saying how unattractive the strippers were.
There is no reason for you to get hung up on this.
2006-10-17 19:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have bigger problems that come up during your married life than if he went to a strip club for an hour. Don't sweat the small stuff. Get over it. I'm sure all you girls just sat around and knitted sweaters right?
2006-10-17 18:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me strip clubs aren't what they are all cracked up to be. I went to a very expensive one for the first time on my on my bachelor party. Don't worry about it any decent woman is 100X better than the women in these places. My buddies and I spent over 200 dollars in about 3 hours, and it wasn't worth it.
2006-10-17 17:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, please don't let this ruin your beautiful relationship and your soon to be marriage. He sounds like a good guy coming home at 11 in the night. THats the time men go out to strip clubs. ANd he even said that it made him appriceate you more. That sounds really sweet. Strip clubs are not so bad either. I've been once with my boyfriend. AND i had a great time. I would do it again, i'm not kidding.
you should forgive him.
2006-10-17 17:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who knows his buddies could of bought him a hooker and made up the whole strip club thing, but thats just an idea you probably have all kinds of raging thoughts going through your mind right now so just get over it. Being married does this to you and your gonna have lots more of this if your this insecure.
2006-10-17 18:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear heart, he was honest with you, he came home to you, and you are marrying him........guys will always 'look', and that is a fact of life, but his life and his heart are with you and that is what is important! Don't be upset anymore, life is too short. Let it go, and know that he loves you and trusts you with anything and everything.......and that is the way a marriage should be. Sounds like you have a great guy there, keep him.
Good luck and blessings to you both.......
2006-10-17 17:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Pattycake2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset. Actually I am arranging something for my fiance for his bachelor party with his friends. It's just a couple of hours as long as he doesn't go home with none of them, no harm done. You know he loves you and he wouldn't trade you in for no one else that is why you are marrying him right?
2006-10-17 18:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by evrythngpooh83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋