This this girl who i played with on a basketball team and now i have pe class with her. She is a year older than me and her friend told me she likes me and that she wants to go out with me but I dont really sway that way if you know what I mean. Should I confront the girl on my basketball team? If not, what should I do? Please help me!!!
2006-10-17 17:44:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her friend that you are not lesbian, and are not interested.
End of story.
2006-10-17 17:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by northmiamibeach1975 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hard but not impossiable to deal with. Then next time you think she might be hitting on you, politely take her aside..away from others, and ask clearly and consisely if she is attracted to you. If she says yes, then nicely tell her that although you are flattered you are not attracted to women, and please, stop flirting with you. If she freaks out and says she is not a lesbian then giggle, make a comment about her being so friendly it threw you off, and forget about it. Now, later, if she said yes, dont go telling everyone in school, it is no one elses business, remember how you would feel if a boy found out how much you liked him and he dissed you in front of school. It wouldn't feel very nice. Also, that would show what a mature young lady you are, and might even make you a friend. After all just beacuse she is gay gives you no right to tell the whole world what should stay between you and her. Just be kind, polite and gracious and you will do fine, and maybe make a good friend.
2006-10-17 18:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by essexsrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that's what they like to wear? It can be as simple as that. But from a psychological/biological stance lesbians sometimes have more masculanized brains or something like that. I really have no clue. That would be interesting to research. But this question is so stereotypical; plenty of straight girls dress like that too. But I know what you mean. And there are plenty of feminine lesbians who dress very girly-girl. But maybe you have good gaydar? Some people can just tell a lot of the time when someone is gay, just by being around them. It sound judgmental but its just like, a sense. Lol
2016-03-18 21:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep it cool the way it's always been lesbian, gay people aren't going to bite and from the most of what I have seen; when peoplehave friends who aren't gay and the one who is gay and likes the other will respect this. I wouldn't have a messenger in the middle going back and forth, thats when words get twisted and a whole bunch of problems start. Just talk to her about it (if she approaches you about it) by tellimg her that she is a col friend to hang with, but you are definately straight and that fact won't change. If she doesn't approach you just stay cool, you don't have to feel uncomfortable around her.
2006-10-17 17:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by get_inked_pierced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if it were a boy who liked you, but you weren't interested? Just treat the situation the same way. There's no need to go out of your way to treat this girl special just because she's a lesbian.
2006-10-17 17:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't confront the girl on the basketball team just yet - that would make for a very awkward situation. However, if her friend comes up to you again and says something, or if the girl herself says something, then I would mention. "I'm really sorry, but I'm straight. But we could be friends?" Don't worry about it, take it as a compliment. Boy or girl, it is someone who admires you, and that's something to feel good about.
2006-10-17 17:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she's not making a move and you don't like her... just let her be as if you confront her, she can just say "who likes you?" and you'd have nothing against her.
if she's dooing the moves on you without expressly saying it. you can use subtle body language to say "no" so that she might get the hint and back off instead of embarassing herself. if she does ask... don't say maybe. say that you like her as a friend.
2006-10-17 17:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell her friend, who will tell her, no point in hurting her feelings. if she continues to pursue you then i would confront her. you never know her friend might have misunderstood her and you might confront a non lesbian, and would you look like an @$$...
2006-10-17 17:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Tabitha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be a rumour. You never know, Kids can be cruel. But even if she is, just don't go out with her. If she herself asks you out, just tell her you're not into girls.
2006-10-17 17:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell this girl thank you for being interested in you, but you like boys. Be courteous and respectful, just as you would with anyone else.......
Blessings to you.
2006-10-17 17:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pattycake2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋