how can i stop flirting with other guys?

Question

well i have a boyfriend and i just can stop flirting, help, before my relationship becomes a disaster?

Answer 1

Girl,
You are the one who asked if you can start having sex after one year of giving birth a week ago.
Now you are here telling us you can't stop flirting?

Answer 2

Ok, now you just have to size it up (maybe even literally)...
I'm guessing you're probably in one of these situations:

A) You are sexually unimpressed by him (and maybe embarrassed to admit that reason to yourself alone, not to mention him). Sometimes you find yourself doing counters, such as giving you gifts, to make him "pay" for his lack of looks or performance....this especially happens during OVULATION.

OR

B) You really like the guy but have lots of sexual tendencies, so you take him when he's there (knowing he's great), but flirt when he's not around not because you don't want him over people around you, but to quench your horniness.


OR, occasionally

C) You can't enjoy your boyfriend's company because you're too worried about your own performance and likability sexually or emotionally, so you seek other attention to "reaffirm yourself"

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So, in the case of A)........

If it's just looks that bother you, it might well be your prejudgement in the case you haven't actually done much physical and don't know. It's like betting on Brad Pitt in a race and then watching him get beat by a Kenyan.
But, if he's a bad kisser, in bed...you need to tell him. If you have/do and he still blows it, that's the end.
My ethics says...the guy does have a right to know you're not satisfied if that turns out the case. Why? So he can size up himself whether he thinks the changes you "need" are worth it, then either shape up or lose you.

in the case of B)
Ok, now either this guy's "schedule" really is that busy or maybe he or you can't find time for each other. So either 1) work to agree to spend more time together or 2) find some peace with the fact you don't have him "on-call" 24-7. If you can't do #2 that means you're not ready for a relationship, stick with flings and don't lie to anyone by saying that they're not flings.

now for C)
You can get as much attention as you want, but it won't cure your craving (it's like a very cheezy diet plan). Just like gorging on material goods the most likely problem is (sad but true) probably that you don't have any decent creative hobbies you've gained talent in that you take pride in. So you use sexual/emotional attention as a cheap substitute for your talent and put unrealistic expectations on yourself and others trying to fulfill that tension. I know pimping out is often praised as a social status symbol but, underneath the BS, sorry to be blantant, you need to get a life because you're missing once in that case.

Answer 3

The best way to quit this behavior is to look ahead to what kind of ill result it will bring. You know its wrong, so you have to figure out a way to make sure to treat your boyfriend like he's the one you want at the end of the day.

I had a girlfriend who behaved like you do - an attractive, buxom blonde lady. I remember once we went to Disneyland and she purposely rubbed her breasts on the young male park employees who helped us on and off rides. To this day, I don't think she thought I noticed this. After this trash, she had the gall to claim she focused her affections on only me!! Needless to say, we've recently gone our separate ways.

My advice? Think it through to the end, then just DON'T DO IT!

Answer 4

he must not be the one then you cant truley love him or whatever if you still flirt i use to be that way untill i found the guy im currently engaged too i dont even think about another guy like that maybe you should just try being friends with him instead

Answer 5

You're 'flirting' if you will, probably comes naturally....for example, i am a very humorous...and guys take my constant smiling, touhching, and laughing as 'flirting' in reality...im just goofy as hell!!!! and other words, he's probably taking it the wrong way!!! if you really like him just be careful how you act when he's around!!!!

Answer 6

Ask yourself, are you happy?

If you are, and he satisfies you in every way, maybe you have a sex or love addiction problem, or you have self esteem issues and are looking for something more.

Or, he doesn't satisfy you and you're looking for something more.

Either way, you need to explore how you really feel and be honest with yourself. I hope you find your answers,

Thirdly, maybe you are happy and just like to flirt cuz its fun and you like the attention. Either way, be honest with yourself, and then with him. It will always work out for what right for you if you are honest with yourself.

good luck, sister.

Answer 7

ok. first of all, i know that this is hard, but try to avoid looking at other guys. i know that its a habit to flirt- i do it too. but every time you start flirting with another guy, think of your boyfriend, ahow much he loves you and how much you want your guy's relationship to go on. good luck! :)

Answer 8

just keep flirting who cares its harmless stimulation and if you enjoy it keep going but if you really want to stop and not cos your man doesn't like it then just distance yourself when around guys you would flirt with.

Just have fun... you only live life once live it to the fullest!

Answer 9

I don't mean to be tough on you, but if you care about your boyfriend and want to keep him as your boyfriend, then GROW UP and CONTROL YOURSELF. No one can do it for you. Think of how you are hurting him and your relationship.......think of how you would feel if he was the one flirting......how much are you willing to risk and lose??

You are in my prayers.....

Answer 10

why stop flirting..you sound young so this is natural...you probably have more sexual urges then just flirting....you need to act on them... if you feel like suckn some random guy off then do that stop worrying