All todays sex and porn seem to finish up with the girl getting taken in the a*s... terms like creampie and such... is this common with partners and in relationships or is it just the stuff on TV and the net? Guys seem to think it's hot and wonder why I don't think so. It looks painful.
2006-10-17 17:31:19 · 23 answers · asked by Appolnia_76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, that answer from the gentleman is wrong. The only thing sexually that is healthy for a relationship is setting parameters of what you will do and wont do, so everybody understands your limits, and no one is taken advantage of. In the fetish community we have a code called SSC. Safe Sane and Consentual. If whatever activity you are engageing in dosen't meet all of those parameters in your book dont do it. Now, then on to the meat of the question.
As to anal sex, well it is a kind of either you like it or you dont thing. Whatever is best for you. I would say in todays' sexually "free" world, that it is prehaps more common ,then it used to be, in straight relationships to have this kind of sex, mearly beacuse the idea is out there and you hear of it often. After all, would the idea to put *that* in *there* ever really have occured to you if you hadn't seen those porns or heard of the activity? Most likely not.
Now as to weither other women enjoy it, I can say that I do not, but know many women who think it is fantastic, it's all really up to you.
If you were to actually try this I suggest trying with an understanding partner, lots of time to be relaxed, and not nervous, and prehaps "working your way up" if you partner is..shall we say well equipped?
Also remember, lots of vigirous sex in that area can tear the delecit lineing of your rectum, and cause small ammounts of bleeding. I suggest you partner wear a very thick condom, even 2 if he is of considerable size, to keep sure there is now chance of cross contamination of his bodily fluids and yours. Safety is a concern these days.
Remember very small amounts of blood is normal, if it is anything more then say...the last day of you period, very light, then go to the doctor imeadiately beacuse you have hurt or even torn something, and in that area of the body, spesis and various other bad things can get into your blood steam, and can cause a horriable contamination of your blood stream, which can kill you.
Not to frighten you away from this activity if you do indeed intend to try it.
Just be careful, remember sex is a intiment and fun activity, and no one EVER has the right to tell you what is or isn't normal, what should and shouldn't make you uncomfortable < provideing it isnt childeren, animals, or dead things> and no one controlls your body or your safety as well as you do. Be safe and have fun dear.
2006-10-17 17:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by essexsrose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg all you women are totally missing the point. Let me clear up some things from a guys point of view.
1. Giving it to your girl like that in no way shape or form means your gay. Anyone who says otherwise is just immature.
2. There are a few reasons why your guy is requesting this.. first of all he may just be bored and wants to try somthing new... he may also be thinking that he isn't satisfying you in every way that he can and as you know many girls love it and he wants you to have that kind of pleasure. Also he may want to do it because trust me it just feels good when your inside your girl like that...
3. Also this may have little to do about sexual feeling and more to do with domination. Ya most men like to think they are the best sex their girlfriends have ever had, and he probably wants you screaming calling him a stud after.
4. Lastly maybe he jsut wants to be the only guy to have ever done this to you.. if your a virgin in that way he can say "i've done somthing to you that no guy ever has before". It can accually be a very sharing intimate experience.
..... lastly consider this.. more than likely if your man has asked you to try this and you have denied him he's not happy about it. He may be too nice(or afraid) to ask it again knowing how you feel. So really is a little discomfort worth you not satisfying your man? And ya it doesn't have to be uncomfortable ... go slow and stop being conservative republican bit..hes.
2006-10-17 18:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by travis R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its a personal preference, it looks painful but is actually quite stimulating. Its a different sensation than regular sex but TV and or porn usually exaggerates the reactions from females. Try it once you'll probably like it. Just remember to do it slowly the first time.
2006-10-17 17:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by bellarosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are speaking of anal sex and it can be painful if not done with care and love and understanding. Its not like the stuff on the net where they show a guy just tearing the girls a.s.s up that is just for a bunch of immature guys to get off.
2006-10-17 17:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate it. Yes it hurts for the most part. After a few minutes you do get used to it. I am married and so I figured I should try everything with the man I will be with for the rest of my life any way but it sucks. Men love it but I hate it. Dont do it if you dont want to dont be pressured. And if you do the next day is terrible.
2006-10-17 17:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER Eeeewwww!!! says me and my husband. Be careful with what you watch, porn is not real life. This is not what nature has intended for this body part. Next time a partner suggests it, just smear poop on his part. Like I already said Eeeeewww!
2006-10-17 17:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a porn cliche. you have to understand that porn is made by men for men. so they put things in it that dont normally happen. for instance, most porn goes like this, she goes down on him, they do it normal, then change positions several times, now time for the an@l. then to finish him off he will blow in her face. no guy in their right mind would ever do that to their girlfriend.
an@l does happen, but only a small percentage of couples do it. my fiance and i have never tried it and have never wanted to. i have never blown in her face too! so dont worry
2006-10-17 17:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just another hole we guys never get to hit on a women we get to do every thing else but there it don't mean your gay.when you go into the a-- it just means you f--- the entire body of a women.
2006-10-17 17:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a Colon & Rectal Surgeon and he always tells his patients that is it an "exit only". I cannot tell you how many people he has had to operate on because of damage caused by this type of sex.
2006-10-17 17:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Cassmore 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For some girls its normal... but if you ask me... guys that like to get girls up the butt have gay tendency's LOL! It DOES seem painful by the way! OuCh!
2006-10-17 17:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by ZaNy_kiDd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋