my dad was abusive and hated me and my mom but he loved my older brother(he's 17 and im 15) but every since my dad left us(about a yr ago) my older bro has been doing worse and worse. last yr he started failing alot of his clases and now he drinks.im afraid tht he might not graduate but i dont know how to get through to him.
2006-10-17 17:21:24 · 9 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to talk to your Mom about this. She needs to help your brother pull it together. You could also talk to the counselor at school...they probably already have an idea that something is going on and can help you....Stay strong and keep loving your brother, he will need you before it's over. Take care of yourself.
2006-10-17 17:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some real life examples of losers and show him. Drinking at such a young age just isn't worth it. You have most of your life to be stupid at least he could wait til he can get in less trouble for drinking. I am 25 and have had a little experience. My mom went to jail 2 time for drunk driving and my dad like 5 times. I don't see him anymore and I see my mom when ever she is sober enough to have me and my family. But My sister is like your brother she is 2 years older than me and she never Graduate High School. She sometimes/most of the time cant pay the bills but I worry about her everyday. She partys still all the time. There is a point in life when you just have to grow up and take a look at what is really important. I am not a drinker I hate the smell of beer. I am the complete opposite of my family. I wish I could tell you how to make your brother see that what he is doing is never gonna end if he doesn't do something now. But I hope I helped a little.
2006-10-18 00:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him if he has vision in the future and all he has done were not good to achieve his dreams of a good professional. His direction is between two. One, his attitudes will make him liability to the society and he has no good future and two, if he will not change for good, the jail is wating for him as soon as he become criminal.
2006-10-18 00:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may need professional help talk to the counselor at school if no one at the house can help him. Do an intervention he may not feel comfortable talking to you all, maybe if he talked to someone else it may help it never hurts to try.
2006-10-18 00:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by star110772000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep telling him to do his work & graduate dad may of left you but you should stand up for yourselves, drinking will not help at all. that will only make him feel worse,
2006-10-18 00:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to let him know that you are there for him and that you will keep the open-door policy for him. let him know that you may not understand what he's going through, but your willing to listen and learn. then it's just wait... hopefully he'll come around and your brother and you will have a wonderful realtionship. just be honest and PATIENT.
2006-10-18 00:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Karen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him it is going to be hard i tell you what it is going to be really hard but would you rather him go on doing what he is doing or have that talk i can tell you from experience that if you take the time to talk to them it will show them that someone actually loves them and cares for them not everyone in the world if going to like them but by god he will realize that his brother does love him please before you lose him talk to him ok good luck and god bless
2006-10-18 02:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by underwear420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, dont loose out on life because dad was a jerk, tell him to get up and dust off and get back on track,
2006-10-18 00:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by DOMINATUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother wants your father to come back. if you have time try to search for your father and talk about what is happening
2006-10-18 00:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by freakybhabhie28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋