I had a court hearing today for domestic abuse from my ex, my friends were concerned for me and offered alot of support and offered to go with me to the hearing. My boyfriend of 6 months did not offer to go and showed not much support at all, basically sounds annoyed when the subject comes it and that makes me feel like ****. I try not to talk to him about it much but then he gets mad when I confide in my friends. Any thoughts about this...I really love him but I can't be with someone who is not willing to be there for me like I am for him. The same things happens when someone insults me or etc., he does not stand up for me, but he is real quick to point out when he thinks I'm rude. I had a really bad day and he has been on my *** since I got home. Do I really need to hang on to something that might not be worth hanging on to anymore? This hurts bad because I always have his back.
2006-10-17 17:21:02 · 11 answers · asked by wandalea_tx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you invested money into a mutual fund that was losing every month, how long until you decided to stop investing with them?
2006-10-17 17:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whilst your boyfriend may have been good to you in the past - he's not anymore. Considering the fact that you have come out of an abusive relationship with your ex, it's time to take stock and start really thinking about what you want from life and more importantly, what you deserve. Whilst your current boyfriend may not be abusive, he's detached and is certainly not around to give the attention and love you want and deserve. If your past experiences are to bring you any positivity, it's that you can assess a situation and not settle for second best!
2006-10-17 17:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had no business being there. He was right in not attending. You sound like a woman who has and needs lots of drama in her life. Why don't you just relax and not push things. Your relationship might be getting better if you do.
As far as him not standing up for you....why would someone insult you if you are doing right? You might be just a tad bit out of control. Come on girl. Reflect on what is going on with your life. There is too much stuff going on.
Tomorrow when you wake up, have a no complaining, I am going to do nothing but help someone else out day and see how it goes.
2006-10-17 17:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't place your heart on endless flames. If you arn't happy with him, if you have to live in despair and in hope for his attention, then you will eventually leave but it might be too late. Don't let him wash away the life of your heart. Don't let your love cling you to pain. I know it's hard and you find any excuse to not leave him, but you need to use your brain. Is this your idea of a husband or boyfriend, or a jerk? Time heals all wounds, I promise you that. But the only way to move on, is to want to. Not just because you love him, means he's good for you. Don't give yourself excuses for being with him. Give yourself reasons to leave him..and do it. In the end..it will free you from him..and you will be able to find someone. Part of life is to go through hard times to be able to recognize the good. Going through bad boyfriends means you'll know what you want and will recognize it when you meet the right guy. Keep your eyes open. Don't let this boyfriend of yours keep you from happiness. Don't let your love restrain you from moving on. Because you need to. You will never be happy with someone like him. It will never end. Do you really want another 5 years with this guy and all his crap? Move on honey.
2006-10-17 17:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for people who already stay on my own then i could recommend to bypass for it. i think in any relationship dwelling jointly is the make it or brake it mark. I appropriate knew my husban for 3 months in simple terms before we won married and moved in mutually. truthfully I moved out from my kin contributors place of dwelling which has been between the fundamental toughest concerns pondering the reality that i'm very linked to them. that's an understanding and could you think approximately ultimate do it :0
2016-11-23 17:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by combes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are questioning his commitment to you than maybe you should move on.you can try telling him how you feel but keep in mind he is a guy.Men are very different from women.I am married to the greatest guy ever ,but sometimes he can be impossible.men tend to shut down and not share their feelings like women.communication is not a skill they are born with.Also remember it takes men alot longer to grow up.I think my husband was 25 when i first noticed he was becoming an adult.as far as him not standing up for you my husband can be the same way and when ive asked him about it his response is that i appear to be able to handle myself .and in his defense i can and i don't have any problem sticking up for myself.but sometimes it would just be nice for him to be my knight in shining armor
2006-10-17 17:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by chaosnks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question. You confide in your friends which makes him feel like chopped liver. He is trying to keep his dignity and self respect the best way he knows how by commanding your attention (albeit like a caveman). Try just spending "quiet time" with him. Maybe if YOU listen, he will open up.
2006-10-17 17:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on....stop being a victim. Life/World has alot of good and positive things to offer. good luck
2006-10-17 19:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by foghat77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand that you love him but he acts kind of S***y and like he doesn't too much care about you,you just might need to tell him how you feel and if he doesn't change move on and get you somebody better
2006-10-17 17:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by datgurlronda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on now's the time.
2006-10-17 17:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋