I always feel like I'm a clumsy, bumbling giant. I am a tall girl, but I would like to be more feminine in the ways I walk, sit, move, etc. I go to a school, and I envy the other girls, because they are all really articulate, poised, and self-confident. They do everything in a feminine, yet confident way. And I feel like a schlump. How can I develop that natural gracefulness? When I'm "being myself", I feel like I look and move too sloppy. Taking dance classes won't happen, because my time is really quite limited (I'm lucky to even have this evening free tonight!) How can I put cross a better image?
2006-10-17 16:55:17 · 5 answers · asked by -:- Masha -:- 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just practice at home. sit up straight, do feminine things...paint your nails, fix your hair, etc. It just takes time and practice
2006-10-17 17:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 6' tall as well and i know how you feel. I have been clumsy my whole life. It use to bother me because i couldn't control it. I am fortunate enough to have friends who appreciate me for who I am. They've learned over the years that I am clumsy and that its not going to change. Now when I do something very uncoordinated they just say "you wouldn't be you if you weren't clumsy", it makes all of them smile and no one ever gets upset if i step on them, kick them, etc.
Its really taught me a lot about accepting the way i am and living life to its fullest. Don't feel insecure because you are clumsy, believe me you're not alone. Be confident in who you are, and even if you do something clumsy don't shrink because of it, just say "oh well, I did it again" laugh and move on.
And by the way you can't develop natural gracefulness, you either have it or you don't. If you could develop it it wouldn't be called natural. Just be yourself, and don't make excuses. Confidence combined with clumsiness is still attractive in its own way, even endearing to some people.
2006-10-18 09:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rochelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suspect time will take care of this. If you are a younger person who is still growing, or has relatively recently completed growing, in some ways, your brain hasn't quite caught up with your body. However, given a year or two, you WILL begin to move more gracefully, and have more poise. I believe the less you concern yourself with your body, and concentrate on other aspects of your life, the more your body will start to comply with your intentions. Rather than dance classes, I suggest exercise - you will become more confident of your body's capabilities, and of your own. Hang in there - it WILL happen!
2006-10-17 21:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People usually draw the line of being good enough or feminine enough or short enough wherever it is they're not. Which means they're setting themselves up to look like loosers in their own eyes.
Don't do that. Grow where you're planted and concentrate on growing strong and healthy.
2006-10-17 17:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more cautious of your mannerisms.....its what they other girls parents forced them to do until the acts were just natural for them.... not many people are born graceful.....pratice or take a class over the summer
2006-10-17 17:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋