My husbands 3 year old son is coming down for next summer and i'm worried that he may start pushin away our by then 9 month old son.. Should i tell him or just wait to see what happens?
2006-10-17 16:49:09 · 19 answers · asked by Vanessa O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His son knows who I am. I've played with him before and he knows he has a little brother. I'm even fixing the extra bedroom so they can share and play (bond in other words).
2006-10-17 17:09:19 · update #1
I cnat imagine that yoru husband doesnt have enough love for the both of them...encourage the three year old to love and nurture the wee one...with a little help and encouragement, i am sure you will al be fine
2006-10-17 16:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by moluvsmark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand the difference in a 3 year old and a 9 month old. I don't think you will have a problem; but your husband should bond with his 3 year old son too. The most important thing to a child is having the love and support of their own biological parent. You may feel a little jealous, but that is normal. You can join in and give the 3 year old a good time too, and also include the baby!!! You may find the 3 yr old is glad to have a brother so cute and cuddly.
2006-10-17 16:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean your husband might push away your son i don't think you should worry. He will love both children equally although if his 3 yr old son is coming down for the summer he might spennd more time with him at first but that would only be because he has not seen him in a while so i don't think u should worry.
2006-10-17 18:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should welcome the opportunity for your son to meet his brother! Embrace him. Welcome him into your home. Show him love and acceptance. He is only 3 years old and is already the victim of a broken home. He certainly doesn't need to feel that he is unwelcome and unloved in his father's home!
IF there are any problems during the visit, by all means address them at that time. Don't start worrying about something that is probably not even going to happen. You have a small baby to focus on right now. Just love him and worry about today.
Pray to God and ask Him to help you find peace about the situation. Ask Him to help you remain positive about it. He will honor your efforts towards this child and bless you for it.
2006-10-17 16:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wuld just wait and see what happens. You are the parent here and this is a 3 year old child. If things get bad you need to put you foot down and set some rules. Just make sure you are positive with him and let him know he is accepted too. Don't single him out or neglect him of attention.
2006-10-17 16:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you shouldn't worry. First off that's your husband! And his son is coming here to visit with you, not your husband going there. Your going to have to become comfortable with his son one way or the other or your life with your husband will be strained anyway. Smile, be glad your sharing a part of his world and he's not sharing it anywhere else.
2006-10-17 16:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by so WHAT? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much. Have a little faith in your husband, after all, you married him. Don't you think that he has enough room in his heart for BOTH of his sons? You are stressing out over nothing. Leave it alone, if you talk to him about it you will only stir up trouble that never needed to happen.
2006-10-17 16:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by pickigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you hope that by his son coming down that he doesnt make a difference between the two kids because it wouldnt be fair to either child in the long run. It would be better to talk about it before it happens to prevent any misunderstandings between you.
2006-10-17 16:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that this may be quite stressful for you. I think you should try to approach the subject with him.
Of course this is usually an unpleasant kind of discussion but if it affects you so much, you should talk about it together. Make sure you show him that his 3 year old son is welcome so he doesn't feel attacked.
2006-10-17 16:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by juliepelletier 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and give him a chance to do the right thing.. but it really is hard to answer because you did not say how long it has been sense your husband seen his 3 year old last .. your 9 month lives with you's i would have to say based on the info. you gave no i do not beleave he will push.... sorry i was not more help....best wishes
2006-10-17 16:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by dogfaceboy626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋