My bf, well now ex bf, have pics of his ex girlfriend along with her lingerie and other ex girlfriends numbers in his phone with whom he still speak with after being intimate and even impregnating one of them (She got 2 abortions by him) . He said he only talks to them once a month but he just got a new cell phone about a week ago and I see that he text messaged one of the ex girlfriends. Do you think I'm overreacting about him talking to these girls? He says I'm making a big deal out of nothing. What do you guys think? Help me here.
2006-10-17 16:40:16 · 30 answers · asked by Beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not at all!
2006-10-17 16:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by KK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My current bf ex's have called him. He has told me when they have called him (at least I think every time). I have been respectful of his "privacy" & I didn't get angry with him about it. But lately it has gotten out of hand, and the ex keeps calling even though I have heard him tell her to quit calling. But he still hasn't told her that he is now with me & happy. He says it's none of her business. I think he's full of ****. I get angrier & angrier each time I hear that she calls. Soon, either one of two things will happen...I will let him have it and he will tell her about me & stop the calls (which will make me feel as though he actually cares about how I feel)--or--I will give up on him....period. I have kids and an ex too. But when my ex called or came around because of the kids, he made sure I told my ex about him. Very double standard. If your current isn't telling the others about you, I think it is because he wants to keep the back pilot light lit in case the front one (you) burns out. Don't put up with the obvious disrespect and double standard crap that he is putting you through. I'm not.
2006-10-17 17:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by moonbaby3504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still shagging them, or he wants too. Find out why they are his ex-girlfriends and not his current. From my point of view if I bothered to talk to any of my Exes I could be in their bed within 30 minutes of hanging up the phone. Ten minutes if I'm on a cell phone. Especially if they have any children by me.
2006-10-17 16:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't think it's alright for guys to still have contact with their ex-girlfriends. when they broke up, they are suppose to stay apart. guys might say they are just friends when they still contact them, but in your case, your ex still keeps their lingerie is totally wrong. i mean, what the heck, phone # is okay, but lingerie is just...
i would want to kill that guy if he got me pregenant and tell me he is not responsible, i don't get how that girl still wants to talk to him. you are totally not making a big deal out of this, i think you are very smart to pay attention to these "signs", some girls would just ignore them, you know what i mean? i think you made the right decision to leave me. : )
2006-10-17 16:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends. Do the girls know he is with you? Does he talk to them in front of? Does he take there calls when he is with you? Does he try to act like he is hiding it from you?
if you answered no to the first 4, and yes to the last one, you have every right to be suspicious. I would take it as disrespect.
I didn't have a problem with my ex talking to any of his ex's, EXCEPT for the chick he dated before me because he hid it from her and wouldn't tell her he was with me, so it just went all bad from there to the point where he never talked to her anymore, and if he did i never knew about it
2006-10-17 16:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's now your ex-bf, does that mean you can count on getting a call from him one a month? At least you'll find out what he chats with when he calls his ex-gfs.
Just off the cuff, he doesn't sound like a winner.....
A whiner, perhaps, but not a winner.
2006-10-17 16:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not overreacting. You need to have a very frank talk with your boyfriend. It's not ok for him to be talking with his ex-girlfriends and looking at them in their lingerie. I suggest you ditch him because from what you just told us, he seems like bad news.
2006-10-17 16:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Zoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! I've gotten mad at my current boyfriend for less than that! Your ex boyfriend sounds like such a snake. It's a good thing that you were able to get out before he had a chance to mess you up! Good luck in the future!
2006-10-17 16:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DANGER ZONE ALERT! I personally think it is disrespectful of the relationship(yours and his) for him to keep in contact with his ex. UNLESS, he is very open about with you and you are CERTAIN that there are no "loose ends". I've learned from past experience that guys feel somewhat comforted knowing that his ex still cares....or just cares to keep tabs on his "goings ons". One question you MAY want to ask is, "Does she know about me?", "Do you tell her you are happy with me?" etc.
Once thing for certain......guys aren't mind readers and MANY times need to be asked "How would you feel if I were talking to MY ex on a regular basis". A simple question that is sure to spark a conversation....if he replies "I wouldn't care" he is lying and needs to be gently SHOVED to the curb.
Respect.....it is so valuable.
2006-10-17 16:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is alright. You should check it out and see if your b/f and his ex still have something together. Or maybe you could be over suspicious if he just want to keep in touch with his friend.
2006-10-17 16:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth it. And you are not overreacting. Because what is his reason why he is still keeping in touch with his past gfs? To rekindle the fire and warmth that they had??? Or maybe he just wants alot of girls on his life???
2006-10-17 16:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋