2006-10-17 16:31:24 · 18 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guy best friends are cool.... but sometimes when having them, you feel like there's a wall.... the way he looks at you is as a best friend... and i'm not saying he'll say NO to you, but what if you try a different approach.... (ex. not "let's go see that one movie" but "wanna go see that one movie... you know just us") let's DATE not lets HANG OUT.... he's thinking lets hang out, you're thinking about something else.... so let him think of that too... maybe even flirt a little... guys might not ALWAYS get the hint.... but he'll catch on, and eventually realize you like him (then if all goes well, he might like you back.... then sparks fly and sooner or later you guys are regular BF and GF) but don't let it get in the way of a GREAT friendship.... that's another thing.... cuz if he's liking other girls he doesn't know, it's cuz he doesn't know you like him and being best friends is like saying "we are cool, but i just rather be friends" so he doesn't look at you like that.... and goes for other girls.... see wat i mean.... i wish i can say everything but if you want e-mail me if you want more help.... ask any of my friends.... i've been in and out an between enough drama to know alot.... so don't hesistate (BIG WORD.... ????)
2006-10-17 16:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by DR. Connect 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess he does notice you , but as he's your guys best friend he has to keep some room between you just in case his feelings evolve into something more than what they are. My guess is he's a very good mate of your "guy" and as such wants to keep some distance between you so that it doesn't even look like he's interested in you in any other way but friends.
There could be a number of other reasons why he doesn't notice you. Are you a dwarf? Do you wear camouflage often? Is he blind? Do you conceal yourself behind pot-plants while at social gatherings? Is there sufficient lighting at the time?
Why don't you try introducing yourself when you see him next time and confront him with your issues, or just ask your guy what the story is.
Hope I've helped and also hope your not a dwarf. Cheers
2006-10-17 16:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by dirtydaryl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
happened to me in HS with a close friend. we critiqued one anothers poetry and so forth and confided about our 'significant others' we were playing around with to one another. This girl was really awesome, and I was nothing short of an authentic horn dog, but still never saw her in that light. Apparently, she towards me neither. But by the time the senior prom rolled around we ended up going together. And she tried turning our relationship up a notch or two that I seriously was not ready for with her. She was way too deep and the most gorgeous person ever. Maybe I was scared to fall in love?
If you have such a close intimacy with someone that you already know probably isnt going to work out with it can be hard to acknowledge. Especially if you are best friends. There would be too much at stake in the highly valued friendship. And you seriously dont want to hurt that person or lose them as a friend for fear of being objectified for different purposes as had been my experiences up to that point in my life and still through to this day.
She even wanted to go 'round the bases that night of the prom but I refused her out of respect to our relationship as friends. It may have been a tad different if she wasnt all dressed up and acting wierd and nervous around me.
In the end it was just because I/we knew we were going on to different directions in life. We would be meeting other people. And I would rather have a good friend I can return to and brag to/confide in. Someone I honestly respected that happened to be a woman. I really thought what we had in friendship was a much bigger love and understanding than we could hope to sustain otherwise.
2006-10-17 16:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly it could be that you are there any ways. does he finds you attractive? is he noticing fine girls or just any girl? best for you is try not to show up for two days and find out his feelings of your absence from a friend. do that for 2 weeks and see what his feelings are for you ?
2006-10-17 16:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by cutlus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why is b/c he doesn't like u like that sorry. I know my best guy friend use to like me and I didn't like him in that way and I didn't know he liked me until he told me 5years later.
2006-10-17 16:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is because he thinks of you as "one of the guys".
gently let him know, you may have to gradually turn up the heat day by day. let him think it was his Idea.
OR
do like my High school sweetheart did to me and drop that bomb in his lap. it blew my mind, and started a very hot relationship that lasted about 4 yrs
2006-10-17 16:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are dating your bf not his best friend. Sounds like you have to figure out your feeling before you wreck your relationship and maybe a friendship.
2006-10-17 16:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Iristine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe it's because he's overlooking you as a prospective girlfriend. but i think for sure he knows that you are the best girl in the world, it's just that he hasn't realized yet...
2006-10-17 16:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by honey_ugly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he thinks that all you will ever be is best friends. he doesnt see the point in going for anything more because he probably thinks that it will end badly. you should talk to him.
2006-10-17 16:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by holymonx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some never do know when to stop looking! Get a new boyfriend!
2006-10-17 16:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋