my brother in law has been calling me up and tells me that he loves me n wants a relationship with me .i dont think this is right .he is seducing me and i feel so helpless .i havent told anyone about this beacuse i know that no one would believe me if i tell them what he has been up to .he talks me in in a different way as if iam his wife .he tells me iam grown up now n he loves me n wants an affair with me .what shall i do ????
2006-10-17 16:20:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello Fatima, first of all let me just say that I am sorry that this guy is putting you through this most awful situation. No one should have to go through let alone put up with that kind of crap. I honestly believe you need to get your sister involved in this. I know its not gonna be easy for you, but this is something you have to do. The sooner your sister knows whats going on the better things will be and if your sister is smart and Im sure she is, she will be able to handle him and she will know what to do next.
The most important thing you can do now besides staying calm is to get your sister involved as quickly as possible so that she can put an end to this. So, call your sister and ask her if the 2 of you can meet up somewhere because you need to talk to her about something important. When you start to tell her, let her know that you know this may be hard to believe but that she really needs listen to what you have to say. Also, tell her when he calls you because you want her to be there the next time this happens. Let her know that you dont want anything to do with her husband and that you just want this whole thing to stop. Dont settle for your sister telling you that she will talk to him because he will only deny everything you said. Im telling you, you need to put your foot down on this and dont be scared. This will all be over soon provided you do the right thing. Good luck, hun!
2006-10-17 16:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by D.J B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to feel helpless. You aren't helpless in this situation. Take control. Next time he calls you, tell him in no uncertain terms that a relationship with you is out of the question, and to stop calling you immediately. Tell him that if he ever brings up the subject again--even ONCE--you will tell your sister and your family. Don't let this go any further. You don't even want that on your head, and he is a horrible, HORRIBLE person for even thinking of putting you and your family through that.
2006-10-17 16:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-21 22:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you can trust, and confide in, This is very serious, and unless he is stopped things could get worst. I know from experience. I also was afraid to tell that my step-father had been approaching me in the same way and he would write me notes, so to have proof I started keeping them. It wasn't until he attached me that the whole thing came out. Please tell SOMEONE, so you don't go through the same thing I went through.
Is there ANY adult you can talk to? A pastor? A Teacher? A Counselor?
The state you live in should have a number to report things like this, confidentiality.
Try That... And Good Luck...
2006-10-17 16:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone you trust, ask for help. Your sister may not believe you at first, but she will eventually. Have you tried telling the bro in law that you are going to tape record him and let his wife hear, or just tell her about his behavior? Sometimes you can bluff your way through using these tactics and nobody gets upset. If he touches you don't walk but run to your sister, mother or someone safe.
2006-10-17 16:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by loveseat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother in law that you do not want a relationship with him and that if he does not stop this behavior then you are going to have to tell the family. Then tell them if he does not stop.
2006-10-17 16:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by iplaykeys817 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get someone to listen in on these conversations, a close friend or relative. Then tell your sis or mom. Stay as far away from this creep as possible thiough. It is horrible for him to do this to you. You gotta get someone else to hear him and then trap him so you can tell.
2006-10-17 16:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree --- tell your family. Have soneone listen in on a call - record a call - save a voicemail or message to support what you are saying. Does not sound like you want anything to do with this guy. If you are under18 --- tell your parents asap.
2006-10-17 16:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by curiousgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in the most umambiguous language that you are NOT interested, and then tell your sister. He is a creep, but at least you all know now.
2006-10-17 16:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by red line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister. THis guy is a jerk and needs to be called out on it. Set him up if you have to, just don't continue to ignore it, it'll only get worse.
2006-10-17 16:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋