Waiting for marriage... is it too old fashioned?

Question

I'm 26 years old, and I'm still a virgin. I have had girlfriends, but have not progressed to that stage of the relationship, as I want it to be a special experience.

I've waited this long, and part of me thinks I should wait until I'm married. Another part of me thinks I should just get it out of the way.

I still want #1 to be a special experience. Do you think I'm way too old fashioned in this situation?

Answer 1

I don't think its old fashioned..
Im 23 & Im just like you, I've had bf's but I never got physical..
I totally agree with you, the first time has to be special.. just think about it, wouldn't it be a 100 times better with someone you believe & know that she's "The One". or with just a girl you might break up with in a month?..
keep the faith, & I hope you find your soulmate soon
<3

Answer 2

If you can find a woman with the same values as you, i think that's very romantic, and builds a strong relationship and bond. Sex is the easy part.

I do think you're a little old fashioned, it's great in theory. i would have thought someone with high morals would already be married and starting a family by now.

Do you care if your future wife isn't a virgin? Because if she isn't a virgin, later on in your relationship, that might come between you because she's experienced other men, where as you haven't.

My sex drive is just too high, don't know how you do it, oh wait a minute... you have hands ;op

Answer 3

Do what feels right for you. I did not wait. My #1 will always be special and i am glad i got to experience a couple different people before getting married. I am also glad that my husband did the same. I think it takes the "wonder what someone else would be like" out of your head which could lead to cheating later you never know --- happens all the time. I think you need to only do it when you feel its right --- if you have not felt that - just wait until you do ---you'll know.

Answer 4

I was only 16 when I met and married the love of my life. He was my first, and so far my only. We were together 10 years when he was killed. He was only 28. We would have been together the rest of our lives, had he lived. Since he was the only one, I believe that he trusted me far more than had he not have been. I don't think it old fashioned, but it is up to the individual. Again, being that young, it afforded me the luxury of not having to make that choice. We did wait till after the wedding by the way. Looking back, I am so glad I was able to give him that special gift. We only dated for a few months, but we both knew we were made for each other.

Answer 5

Old fashioned is nice, there aren't enough old fashioned guys in the world! If u want to wait until marriage then u should, getting it out of the way is all well and good but u need to ask yourself if will u regret it after? Whatever fells right for u is right, doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Answer 6

not really, your're doin fine. I just hope you'll be able to accept a girl that is not a virgin. But if you find one that is also a virgin then that would be good too.

me and my friends were just talking about it one night and I got to thinking that wainting till you get married is sort of a good thing. Cause when you actually find that special person to share your whole life together with, you have no comparisons of other "sex partners".

Let me just tell you out of experience, my sister in law says he hubby was her first ever. And according to her she has the most satisfying sex life. I for once had several before my hubby. Unfortunately I had better partners, but I really love my hubby so much. And thats ok for me. What bothers me is knowing other sexual standards. Sadly, I am my hubby's first, and well, he doesn't really have a comparison. And he gets totally freak out when i get "too wild" in bed. lol. oh well, he's a kind & loving family man.

Oh my! my ideas are all jumbled up. i'm having a headache right now. but I hope you get what i'm saying. It's about having not to worry about comparing your wife to your exes. Just remember though, there are more to life than sex, and that's love. ^_^

Answer 7

Yes you are too old fashioned. Im not saying its all about sex but at the same time the "first time needs to be special thing" is overrated. The truth is nobody's first time is all that good. The only special sex is GOOOOOOD sex. Good sex can either happen with a one night stand or someone that you are really in love with, it depends upon the person. But being that its your first time you dont really know what your doing so it won't be as great as say your 20th, 3oth, or 1000th time having sex. Experience counts. So go out there and get your cherry popped if thats what you want.

Answer 8

No, yes.... I can't decide.
In some cultures it is a given that a couple wait till the wedding.
The only problem there is you may find yourselves sexually incompatible. And sex is a big part of most marriages.

You can make it a very special occasion whether your married or not.
It is obviously on your mind a lot.
In a westernised society 26 is rather old to still be a virgin (not unheard of or wrong, just old).
These are actually your peak years for sex as well.
Just some more food for thought.

Answer 9

I don't think you are too old fashioned at all. The experience should be a special one, not one that you do just for the sake of doing it. When you feel the situation is right then you will make your decision. Don't worry about what your friends are doing, be true to yourself and you won't go wrong.

Answer 10

I have a lot of respect for you. I don't think it's old fashioned at all. This is an important decision that you alone should make for yourself. Don't let what everyone else is doing influence your decision. This day and age it is hard to stay a virgin, and I applaud your stable virginity! Keep it up, unless you feel that you could do it & NOT regret waiting.