Is it wrong to tell someone that you are concerned and care about them, even when they are capable of taking care of themselves. The lady I am seeing is painting her house and is climbing up the ladder and painting up high. I told her to be careful and if she wanted I would do it for her. She said she could do it herself, which I know, but I was concerned that she could fall with no one around and asked her to wait till I came over so I could help. Was I wrong to care?
2006-10-17 15:57:31 · 11 answers · asked by apbacker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely not!! It's wonderful that you really care that much about her, but it's just your luck that she's independent. You just want to be careful not to come off as though you don't think she is capable of doing the job. She will become defensive and therefore more determined to do it on her own. If you are really worried about her, try to arrange it so that you can be there, but still let her do the work if she wants, you may find she doesn't mind you being there as much as she thought she would. You see, we tend to dig holes deeper than we can handle some times, but we have pride too!!!
2006-10-17 16:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by EllieMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong to care. Caring show you are a good guy, but just let her know you are there to help if she wants it. That shows you also care about her independence and that is also good
2006-10-17 23:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, and we as women thank you for proving that chivalry is not dead. Sometimes we like to think we can do it all and don't want anyone to care or do stuff for us, but it's still a very nice sentiment deep down. You sound like one of the good ones left.
2006-10-17 23:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you wernt wrong, you were showing you cared, BUT she must be the independant sort, there is nothing stopping you from going round & helping though,
2006-10-17 23:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. :O) It's very good that u care about her and tell her how u feel and she'll appreciate that.:O) u are a gentleman and to me that is sweet, so don't stop caring for her.:O)
2006-10-17 23:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by poshbaby24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's showing that you are a nice person. Even if they don't want your help, they will know this, and remember it if they do need it.
2006-10-17 22:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by KGB_Vampiric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO!!!Its very sweet that you care about her.I am sure she is very flattered by that.If she's not than she needs to be.God bless
2006-10-17 23:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by springtime_pink_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not wrong but u can convience the lady for help by requesting her more.
2006-10-17 23:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by soumya_shrivastava 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always good to care --- im sure she appreciates it -- dont be smothering just call later to make sure all is ok and to talk to her
2006-10-17 23:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are real sweet there should be more men like you!
2006-10-17 23:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋