Separate them for a while. Anyone gets irritable when the same person is there all the time. Yes, they are twins and born as a unit and probably referred to as a unit "the twins" but in fact they like the rest of us are individuals. They need time apart to grow separately as well as time together to bond. When my children fight I would separate them for at least 10 minutes then go talk to each one individually after they have cooled off to find out what's bothering them. After you talk to both, then talk to them together making each one have their turn to talk, say how they feel and apologize. If you do this it is time consuming but doing it a few times they will learn better how to resolve their own problems without your intervention. Good Luck!
2006-10-17 15:59:28
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answered by DB 5
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My twin girls just turned seven. They hardly ever rough house but when the fight or hurt the other I send one up stairs and keep on down stairs for about 10 minutes and it seems to work just fine. I also make the one who is not crying hug or rub the back of the one who is crying until they stop crying and sometimes the crying gets louder!. make them take it outside and if they can't handle it then I would send them to be or give them 8 jobs each.Like carry laundry upstairs. dump a trash can easy stuff.
2006-10-21 22:47:41
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answered by Mommytothreein20months 2
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I am the parent of b/g twins. I understand your pain. A great way to get them to "get along" is to get them involved in things that make them have to cooperate, like a treasure hunt or other group activities that they aren't competeing one another but helping one another. They may also need time with the parents seperately. A place for some ideas and resources may be (believe it or not) the super nanny or some sites that cater to children and group activies. Just take a deep breathe. I gave you some places to go to help you set some guidelines and rules for them. These sights have some really good ideas.
2006-10-17 23:07:13
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answered by puzzleraspie 3
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I have a 5 and 7 year old. My nieces (2 of them and are at my home half the time) are also 7. If they have any arguments/fights I make them sit together and work it out. IF it becomes serious I get involved and they get timeouts or separated. I think they have very good communication skill by my doing this. They have learned to listen to each other and at least try to work it out on their own.
2006-10-17 22:50:08
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answered by erinjl123456 6
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My mom made my sister and I hold hands on the couch while she sang a song about sisters loving each other,caring,sharing, etc.When the song was done she would make us hug and say we loved each other. It got to the point where she would start to sing it if we started fighting and we knew what was coming if we kept doing it, and the fight stopped.
2006-10-18 02:03:33
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answered by Anonymous
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we use the concept of slave time.
the offending kid is made to be the slave of the offended kid for a period of time.
we have 3 kids and it worked great when they were that age.
2006-10-17 22:53:29
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answered by joe f 3
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give them attention apart from each other.
2006-10-17 22:50:44
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answered by kdboo4u2cherish 2
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