what do you fo if your dad abuses you?

Question

once well mydad i was talking nice to my little 8 year old brother who almost paralyzed me and my dad yelled at me like furiously. and my brothers start fights and i get blamed for starting them.
my little brother likes to annoy me because im the only girl and i have 5 brothers so then i get blamed and my little brother smiles when i get in trouble and my dad's yelling at me more than 1/2 1 day! when he does that i'm always thinking i want to run away .
my brothers are so mean so my dad and them are always saying "life's not fair" i could of figured by now

Answer 1

Jenni,

You need to go and get help from somewhere....I know your doctor or teacher can direct you to the right place for help.

You sound really miserable.....I also read and answered your other question....get help now.

Answer 2

Hunni, First off I must tell you that this is a form of abuse, but things could be worse. You seriously need to relize that childhood is part of your life that needs to be enjoyed. I do not live your life, so I don't know if your just upset because this happened today and tomorrow you'll be fine, or if your actually being verbally abused. If this is a one day thing, or if you father and brothers do not know how you feel, then you need to make your feelings known. Maybe they're just teasing you because sometimes my dad teases me when Im in a mad mood and I get pretty upset. Life isn't fair...how thats a tough lesson everyone learns, but the thing is life doesnt have to be fair for it to be good. you need to find an outlet that you can poor out your soul to when you get upset. Like writing or playing an instrument, something to get your mind off of things and calm you down. Then, once your calmer, you should tell your father whats bothering you. Sometimes talking is hard, like it is with me and my father, so maybe just write him a note, even if you don't give it to him. If you are getting verbally abused, there is always the opption of getting people of higher authority invloved, but that will make things messy unless you HONESTLY are being abused. Hope I helped . Thats really all I can tell you and I hope I helped you out a little bit.

Answer 3

You call mere yelling abuse? for me either my dad or my brother use to beat me up but in a way that no blue bruises
would show just red spots.... I pretended to others that it was
just sunburn. I never told anyone about the beatings except a few
doctors.. then they asked if I abuse anyone.. I said no.. then they didn't believe me.. cause they said Children are usually like
their parents. I walked away. I now think Psychologists and Pyschiatrists are crap heads they just go on their opinions and the falsehoods they were taught! I often hid when my Dad or my Brother came home drunk cause I didn't want to be beaten up.

Answer 4

Don't worry, I had that problem with my two little sisters. That technically doesn't count as abuse. But here's what you can do: Make a list of what you don't like about your relationship, and tell your dad you want to talk. Describe exactly what is wrong. Bring in your little brothers and have them join the talk. It'll work.

Answer 5

Well go do your own thing somewhere else in the house,stay in your room away from them.Do whatever your suppose to do around the house then disappear.If you stop hanging around them(your brothers) long enough your father will soon come to you and ask why,this is your time to explain your side of what's going on and ask him to help to put an end to it.He is not abusing you,he just haven't heard your side of the story yet.This will get his attention.

Answer 6

Your Dad has a problem: he sees this situation from his own point of view. He feels like girls are sneaky or troublesome, and are the cause of problems. He may be right, just a bit. When you have a lot of girls and just one boy... or a lot of boys and just one girl... that one does cause trouble. Try to keep a low profile, stay away from your brothers when they are fighting. Start reading good books from the library, or from school. Remove yourself from every conflict in the home. That's the only way to avoid this. Good luck.

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Answer 7

I grew up in a house where my dad had no clue as to how girls, act and or think. I can promise you that it always seems worse than it actually is. I used to grow a hate for my dad, but as i've grown up I've learned that it was just because he didn't know how to raise a daughter. I don't know if there is a right or a wrong answer to your question. Maybe just talk to your dad and let him know that it makes you upset when he yells are you so much. Maybe talk to your mom as well?

Answer 8

think about it you are the only girl and 5 other boys your dad screams at you because he cares about you and dosent know what to do with you guys imagine yourself taking care of 6 children you would explode at least i would well whenever hes not in a bad mood tell him whats wrong and how he screaming at you makes you feel and expres your feelings with him you'll see what great results you'll have n e ways he helped on creating you and bringing you to life

Answer 9

You could try sitting down to talk with him. It sounds like you are very frustrated. I feel that it is necessary to point out however, that for it to be legally classified as abuse, he has to actually leave marks on you that last more than twenty four hours. Maybe you can have a conversation, and find out where he is coming from, and try to compromise. I am sure that he loves you, and that you can work it all out if you just talk to him. Or you could always try to appeal to your mother.

Answer 10

What you're dad is doing is not abuse if I were you I would take a deep breathe and try and relax because from you description what you're dad is doing is not even remotely close to absue. Take a chill pill honey.

Answer 11

If you really believe you're being abused, look in the phonebook for the Boys and Girls Club of America. Give them a call. They will help you.