when do I introduce a man I'm dating to my daughter?

Question

she's 9 and I've been divorced 3 years.

Answer 1

WHEN YOU ARE SURE HE IS THE RIGHT GUY, AND LET HER KNOW LITTLE BY LITTLE THAT YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON IN LIVE, MAKE SURE THIS GUY IS NICE AND OBSERVED HER REACTION WHEN YOU TELL HER THAT YOU HAVE FOUND SOMEBODY THAT LOVES YOU AND WOULD LIKE TO MEET HER TOO. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING NEVER LEAVE YOUR DAUGHTER WITH A MAN ALONE, YOU NEVER TRUST ANY MEN NOT EVEN FROM YOUR FAMILY. I AM TELLING YOU THIS FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.

Answer 2

it really depends on how she feels about you dating in general! is she okay with you having a boyfriend? My daughter met my boyfriend the first date, but she knew we had been talking on the phone and at work for a long time. Her theory was he had to meet her approval (lol) she was also around 9. If she's not happy about you dating someone then talk to her more about it! Include her on like "where do you think we should go for dinner or what should I wear". That way she will begin to understand you are excited and happy about this change and maybe she will be soon. That is a hard transition for kids! Let her know that no matter what that this new guy will not take her place and she will always come first! Good luck!

Answer 3

This can be a very tricky situation. Wait and see how serious the relationship is first. Is this going to be a long term relationship? When u do introduce them, ur daughter is going to have alot of questions for u to answer and u will need to be prepared 4 that too. U know ur daughter better than anyone. U will know when the time is right.

Answer 4

I don't think that there is a magical answer. The question should be when do you think that this man is worthy of meeting your daughter. In my case, I did not want my son to continue to have men come in and out of his life like his father did/does. So, when I knew that the man I was dating wanted to be in a relationship with me and my son I introduced him to my son. I had no doubts about his feelings towards me and the fact that I had a child.

Answer 5

I don't think there is any set time frame. I do believe that you should wait (if you can) until you are sure there is substance to your relationship with this man. I say if you can because not every situation provides for that sort of privacy. Unfortunately the success and failures of our personal relationships do affect the children as much as they affect us.

Answer 6

I would wait until you know that the relationship is going somewhere. The last thing you want to do is introduce them and then you have to go through a break up. Wait until you are sure it is going to last.

Answer 7

WELL only you know the answer to this, let her meet him as soon as you know all there is to know about him, firstly get all his background, make sure he checks out, then & only after then, should you let your daughter meet him, be totally sure he is the one, your daughter dosent want to be brought up with lots of new uncles, good luck i hope everything works out ok.

Answer 8

That's a tough question! When you are verrrry sure that you two are for real! Marriage bound!
Your daughter should know about him ahead of time before they meet. And he should know about her! Knowing his 'role' in her life ahead of time and vice versa. You should be talking with your partner and child separately about expectations in the new relationships. They should be looking forward to a relationship with each other before they meet. ;)

Answer 9

eih i think as early as possible especially the getting to know each other stage and i think you should ask her about it..she's 9 and she's old enough to understand...

Answer 10

On your wedding day