i am no one to complian but i have been soooo stressed out my husband just got deployed to iraq and i have no one to help me with our child who is 6 months and starting to crawl.... i go to school full time and come home to care for her...i live alone with no family so there is no one to help me...at time ihave horrible thoughts in my head i brush them away...but the stress is too much what can i do to stop feeling like this... with out doctor meds...
2006-10-17 15:23:27 · 10 answers · asked by stefani 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
okay, there was a woman in San DIego who just made the news because she wrote to Dear Abby with these similiar feelings..The military has help available to spouses of servicemen/women deployed..Use them! Call Them! That's what they are there for...speak to other wives..to your husbands unit leader(?) and get the phone numbers you need..there is no reason to do this all by yourself..esp. when there are people just waiting to help you! The lady who wrote dear abby is doing better...and there were tons of help offered to her...you can feel better too...
and thank you to you and your husband for your service to this country.
2006-10-17 15:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by OliveRuth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is horrible that your husband got deployed to iraq but stop being selfish and take care of the baby like a big girl.so what if you go to school full time.. alot of us have done it with more than one child and still managed to raise our children on our own..
think of how good you have it a beautiful baby.. going to school to better yourself.. As for not having family close by.. go see them for a while. And or call the and ask them if they couldn't help for a little while.
I raised 3 kids on my own went to school. went to work and still had time for my children and spent most of the day playing with them .. still had time to sleep and what ever else i needed to do.. so grow up.. get rid of the stupid thoughts and just get real..
if you can't get over it.. you will need to go to the doctor and get some meds.
don't you have any girl friends or anyone that can take the baby for a while.. you say you are going to school full time cut back and just go part time. unless you are a teeny bopper that is supose to be in high school finishing your education..
just grow up and do your best.. that is all that anyone expects of you.. you child is your priority now though so take care of it ..
2006-10-17 22:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would suggest a doctor and meds, but you already nixxed that, so my opinion would be to find a routine that works for you and your child, sounds like you could have a bit of delayed on-set post pardum depression triggered by the deployment. Try finding some people in similar situations, or even other moms with kids/babies to hang out with and kill time, even sitting and watching talk shows with another adult is a good thing. Biggest thing, find some way to make the time FLY!!!!! Wish you well!
2006-10-17 22:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a support group full of women whose situations are like yours. You need support. These groups usually meet free of charge. I think maybe you just need someone to talk to that understands what you are going through.
2006-10-17 22:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you consider moving back with your family? You will feel much better. If you feel that you're on the point of breaking down, please consider taking time off from school that is if you're going to college. If you're still in High school, please consider moving near your family, so this way you can get some support. Please get help now because you deserve it.
2006-10-17 22:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor and ask him for anti-depressants. It has helped me. I used to cry alot for no reason. To discover I have a chemical imblance. It has done wonders for me. My anti-depressant is $7 a month. You have to find the right one for ya!
2006-10-18 01:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by jessica h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move closer to family
2006-10-18 00:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing PRAY! ASk God, Speak Lord your servant is listening. Believe me. You will get the answers you need for now.
2006-10-17 22:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by burrgump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a psychologist.
2006-10-17 22:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ohay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an affair, That'll take your mind off it.
2006-10-17 22:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋