There is this guy I have been seeing. I really don't even know if he considers me as his g/f or not. He sings and tries to cheer me up when he sees that I am down (I didn't tell him, he just noticed). We have kissed a couple times. It was a great feeling between us! He has given me a lot of hugs. We haven't been on any dates (going to movies, etc) though. We have known each other for almost 10 months. He has disappointed me a couple times, but he tells me he's sorry and he also told me that "I will never let me down seriously." He always tries to get my attention. He always teases me and plays around (messing with me). He makes me feels really happy. He tells me he wants to go to a getaway weekend with me only. He is a very gentlemen-like person and he has his sides also. He is both types when he is with me. He tells me he is comfortable when he is with me. He in a way seems to be a very special guy, but still I am confused sometimes.
2006-10-17 15:14:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do have special deep feelings for him. It's just I sometimes wonders if he really loves me. Sometimes on weekend, I called him, he won't respond until the next week. or I might call and he says he will call back but never did and he apologizes to me the next time I see him. Please tell me if this is something I should be patient and hold on to. I feel confused right now. Please help me see what I should do. Does he love me? What is he thinking? He tells me something, but it doesn't seem that he will do what he says. He is sometime very inconsistent. He is a Gemini by the way. Please help me see through with this guy!!
2006-10-17 15:20:34 · update #1
He did ask me if we can go to lunch, but we don't live near each other and we both have our own things to do, so we haven't had a chance to be together like a date type. I do want to go out with him, it just our schedule of work and school are conflicting most of the time. He doesn't have a girlfriend. I always asked him and he always confirm by looking straight into my eyes and telling me that he doesn't have a girlfriend.
2006-10-17 15:27:19 · update #2
Actually, he has asked me out a couple time, but at the last minute, I had something or was stuck in something and I couldn't go. I apologize to him and he said he understands. I guess I let him down those times too, but I really didn't meant to let him down. He is totally cool with it though!
2006-10-17 15:32:49 · update #3
He asked me to go with him to a Dave Matthew's Concert, but I couldn't go at the last minute and so he went with his friends.
2006-10-17 15:34:20 · update #4
is there a question?
2006-10-17 15:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to question this relationship. My vote is consider it a friendship. If he gets sexual then you decide if you want to share the benefits of the friendship. My guess is that he's not that into you as gf matieral, but you obviously have plenty of sexual attraction that he's after some of.
If he asks you to go away for the weekend, ask how he expects you to go from a platonic friendship to spending the weekend?? After all, he's never asked you out on a date in 10 months, and he seems to exercise his "freedom" at will.
My guess is he's setting you up to be his gfwb. The fact that he's talking weekend and you didn't rebuke him means you're at least cool with the idea. So the choice is yours. You can be his "go-to" gfwb, but not his gf he takes to movies or dinner.
I don't know either of you, but I suggest you test his motives a little and "mess with his mind some" until you have your answers to what his intentions are toward a relationship with you.
Good Luck.
P.S. OR, you have every right to exercise your feminine prerogative to forget him and pursue someone who can make time for dinner and a movie.
2006-10-17 15:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are good friends,and on the right track for a good relationship!! Give it some time and see what happens. It's only natural too feel confused at times, I'm sure he has times that he's confused as well. Life is confusing ! lol
Take things slow, and don't rush into anything too fast. As fot that "Getaway" weekend trip...Wait a while and see how the relationship develops.
2006-10-17 15:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known him for 10 months and he is kissing and messing around with you, but not taking you out, be very cautious. Now he wants to take you away for a getaway weekend, away from people he knows that can see you together. It sounds like he is involved with someone or married and just wants you on the side. Be careful.
2006-10-17 15:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to get some azz from you but in a gentlemanly way. All men want the same thing.
1. BJ before bed
2. Scrambled eggs and toast the next morning
3. A quickie at lunch
4. Dinner in the nude
5. Hot shower with you lathering up his family jewels.
6. See #1 and begin all over again
2006-10-17 15:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds nice but i don't understand why you don't have some type of date if it is only getting a cup of coffee or going for a walk together -go out and eat a bite or something! I would ask him If he is planning on going on dates with you or if he only wants a weekend of fun! Is he involved with someone else?
2006-10-17 15:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPL3 WILL ALWAYS LET U DOWN= maybe not intentionally- he should not make promises like that- he wants to wisk you away for a weekend??? but not date you??? Sounds like he is a flirt and has a girlfriend- and wants to get in your pants- not too gentlemanly- D
2006-10-17 15:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am in a similar subject as you, my mom is likewise in heaven, on mom's dad and father's day I supply grants to my relatives, to acquaintances and to my buddies. I constantly attempt too be between love ones for those activities.
2016-10-19 22:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by lindgren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entirely up to you. If you feel good around this person be happy. That's what it's all about. If you don't want it to go any further talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Enjoy his company as he may be enjoying yours.
2006-10-17 15:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like there's something special between the two of you and he wants to take it slow to make sure you both know what you want before getting in deeper
2006-10-17 15:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by pcdo_universe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want to do???
go on the weekend but go out before then get to know him better
make sure you are safe
gentleman are sometimes the most mmmmm persuasive in getting what they think they want
2006-10-17 15:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋