I live with friends He is muslim his wife isn't, I currently don't come out of my room as he expects me to cover my arms and legs while he is fasting. i wear loose pants but cannot tolerate my arms being covered, I never have been able to do this as i sweat too easily and skin starts itching with rash. He is upset that i won't come out of my room and insists i come out sit and talk and cover myself completely. I don't show any clevage or legs but refuse to cause myself discomfort by wearing sleves.. I understand he isn't allowed to look at another woman but why should i be forced to cover my arms when i'm not muslim?
2006-10-17 14:42:43 · 12 answers · asked by btyboop2001 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sounds like an unreasonable request to me. If you were muslim and he thought you should obey him they it would be different but it is not fair that you should live in discomfort. He should be able to control in what way he is looking at you and you have rights to believe and dress the way you want to.
Maybe you need to find a new place to live where you have a bit of liberty.
2006-10-17 14:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This case is really very dependent on where you live...
If you live in an Muslim-majority country, then I would consider modest clothing because you are not married to the guy, and therefore, are really a stranger in his house.
If you live in a western country, then here are your options:
1) Don't listen to him. Even though you are really a guest in his house, if he can't control himself while he is fasting, then he shouldn't be fasting. He'll need to work on the self-control aspect of fasting.
2) You are not a Muslim, so it's up to you to either respect his request, out of the kindness of your heart, even though it causes you discomfort, or turn it down. If you end up doing what he wants you to do, then you are doing it because you want to do it. Either way, if he was a reasonable man, he shouldn't be upset with whatever your decision is.
3) Move out and live somewhere else until Ramadan is over.
2006-10-17 15:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that according to his own religion -- he should be lowering his gaze. Of course tell him in nicer terms :)
As a Muslim, he has no right to force you to dress like a Muslim woman. If he is so concerned tell him to not look.
In case you want to please him, you don't have to wear long sleeves even, do you have a shawl? You can even spread that over your upper body.
ON A SIDE NOTE: If you start itching/rash from sweating then perhaps you have a medical problem and you should seek help from a doctor regarding that.
2006-10-17 14:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ibrahim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I don't know him, but he may be attracted to you, he should just look away, he can't tell you what to do, if you are not wearing anything provocative like short shorts, then the only reason I can see him insisting is he is *attracted * to you, that's a weired uncomfortable situation, sounds kinda bossy bossy to me, again he's attracted to you and doesn't trust himself, but I don't know what's in his mind, keep your distance, and just act professional, maybe, i don't know, but you are making him, well you know, and he can't do that if he is fasting, but as a Muslim man he is supposed to lower his gaze, but there is only a week or so let of Ramamdan, and again maybe you're making him think of something that he is trying to refrain from, but he wants to conversate with you and not feel that way (sigh), I don't know.,
-Muslim
2006-10-17 15:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Muse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thanks God. at least the guy is not a pervet and a cheater who will try to take advantage of you , or cheat on his wife, that's a sign that the man is a good man. other men will be like "heyy come out with no clothes at all".
don't you guys have air-condition or something? wear clothes that is light to you not make you swet fast. and no you are not forced to do so, let him work two jobs of which you can't see him the whole day.
2006-10-17 15:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in their house, I would consider moving out--seriously. Why in the world should you have to pacify him and his religion to your discomfort? You most certainly can still what he believe and such but only to a point. Respect yourself first.
My attitude is, you should talk to him and voice strongly your feelings on this matter. Otherwise, you're locked into a brain-washed lifestyle you don't agree with.
2006-10-17 14:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your husband and you are not Muslim. Does he own the house? You do what YOU want. To hell with him! Who is he, your keeper??? If you want to parade around the house in a tube top you should be able to. Tell him if he doesn't like it to MOVE!!!
Stand up for yourself sister!!
2006-10-17 14:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Islam doesnt force non-Muslims to follow the Islamic laws...if you're wearing loose clothes, then your friend has to learn to control himself, and his looks at you...
2006-10-17 14:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by AG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are living in their home, then if you're not happy
with their lifestyle, you should find another place of your
own. If it is your home, you should be able to wear what
you please. If you are forced to do anything, move out.
2006-10-17 14:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋