this girl was staying with me, and I loaned her some money, as well as gave her 50.00 from a coworker to pick some stuff up for him, and well...she's stayed with me for nearly 3 weeks, and has eaten my food, used my minutes on my cell phone, borrowed change, ect...and I still haven't seen not only any rent money, but not even the money that she borrowed from me, OR my coworkers 50.00. I've made her leave, and changed the locks, because she took my house key without my permission as well. So, she wants to come back tonight for her stuff. She has no established residency here, she's not on the lease, or receiving mail or anything here, so do I HAVE to give her stuff back to her? I also have a paper signed by her, stating that she owes me money. I'm afraid if I tell her she can't have her stuff, she's gonna bring the police, but if I tell the police she doesn't live here, just staying here for a little while, and show them the paper she signed, will they make me give her stuff back?
2006-10-17 14:38:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
A verbal agreement for rent was established the first night we both agreed she'd be staying here. And she owes ME far more than she owes my co-worker. And she signed a paper herself stating her name, when she borrowed the money, how much, and that it would be repaid, and she signed it.
2006-10-17 14:46:26 · update #1
I can't take her to court, because once I make her leave, I have no contact info for her. she's pretty much homeless without a job. To be honest, she's a drug dealer I found out. What can I do to get my money back (and my co-workers money)?
2006-10-17 14:49:10 · update #2
to the last person, no there was NO exchange of sex. She slept on the couch and I slept in my room in my bed. There wasn't even any sexual attraction. The paper she signed stated, I _____, am borrowing $xxxx amount of money on (this date) to be returned in the amount of $xxxxx for the loan, and then she signed it. Stop assuming. I'm not like that.
2006-10-17 15:06:01 · update #3
a case for judge judy if ever i heard one
2006-10-17 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by duncan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are really afraid of is that she will tell the cops you gave her money and food and lodging in exchange for sex (or those drugs you now mention). The way she used your phone, borrowed change, took the money from your coworker, etc., shows she was there on a temporary basis - plus your own words "staying with me" unconsciously show she was more than a renter. In fact you are using those terms as it makes you feel more like a man to do so. You failed to describe the nature of the paper she signed as well - and if it had been about rent, you would have said so.
What people leave out in these stories always gives them away. Put her stuff out on the porch or stoop and let her take it. Maybe she conned you a bit, maybe she didn't, but all in all, you probably got off lucky.
2006-10-17 15:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot "steal" her things for a past debt. $50, so is that worth getting prosecuted for? You offered her a place to stay, did you stipulate rent before she moved in, or were you helping a friend. If nothing was agreed to previously, you can't charge her for rent or keep her things as payback. Sorry. The person she borrowed money from (because it's not you) can file small claims, but you cannot retaliate for his debt. Be a man, let her get her personal belongings, then deal with any unresolved issues.
2006-10-17 14:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by st pete rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your money isn't different than her posessions. If you have an IOU then she has your posessions as well and you have proof of it. She hasn't signed a lease so she has no renter's rights. If she calls the cops she's no more in the right than you are. The question is, is what she left at your place of such great value that it's going to make dealing with her ever again or is it just smarter to cut your losses and learn from your mistakes.
2006-10-17 15:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is some girl. Yes, you should give her stuff back, but I wouldn't let her back into your house to get it. I would deposit it outside the front door and tell her you want your money at the same time you give her stuff back to her.
I have learned my lesson the hard way too. Never fully trust everyone. I am so glad you have it in writing she owes you money. Did you have it also when it is to be paid back to you and your co-worker? I hope so. I do believe you have to give her stuff back to her even though things turned out like they did. I will be praying for you.
2006-10-17 14:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
often human beings publicly shamed ordinarily pass on the protective and could do something different than very own as much as being incorrect. subsequently paying you decrease back. i think in case you have been set on doing this nevertheless, it would paintings ultimate to invite the to return the money. this way they might desire to respond to you in public and that they do no longer want to look like a bum. only shop asking in case you get no reaction the 1st time. I guess you get a private telephone call. They wont placed excuses on Face e book. it will cause them to look undesirable. human beings like that don't concepts looking undesirable to the guy they took the money from, that's anybody else understanding it too that they worry.
2016-12-16 09:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by edelmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Technically speaking, you cannot hold her possession hostage for the money owed. You have to give her the stuff back and then take her to court for the money owed. Now, if she doesn't come back for the stuff or make a reasonable effort to arrange to get them, say in 6 months, then you can reasonably assume she has "abandoned" them and you can sell them. If you continue keeping her stuff, SHE can take YOU to court and sue you
2006-10-17 16:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law you have to give her stuff back to her and the police will tell you that.If you want your money back then do it the mature way and go to court.It`s ok to help those in need but to let someone walk on you is wrong and you did let her walk on you.Learn from your mistake.Do everything the legal way.
2006-10-17 14:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you know and i know she's coming with the cops. how much money did you lend he in total? by law you have to sue her and a judge will decide. but for you to take her property and hold it til she pays you is unlawful. you're not a pawn shop. they will probably make you give her the stuff back. is it really worth the headache ? chalk it up to experience and be glad that you got off cheap. don't get yourself arrested for something petty.
2006-10-17 14:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must give her a legal notice of eviction or she can sue you for an illegal lock-out.... go to your local courthouse law library and find out how much notice you must give..
no you can not keep her items.... it is called self help.... with a witness (police officer is best) have her pick-up her items.... send her a certified letter giving her a time and date to pick up her items...
go immediately to small claims court in your city and file a petition requesting relief through the courts for your money....
2006-10-17 16:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by ladyqueenbeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her, her stuff and go to small claims court, If you have her address...
The police will try as much as they can to help her...
2006-10-17 14:43:30 · answer #11 · answered by shoot.bang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋