My four year old loves to give me money because she says "you did a good job mommy- here is some money." This is money that she earned from helping around the house. I love that she wants to share but I feel bad taking it. I usually try to convince her to keep it then I see her little eyes. I then decide to take it and later put it back into her piggy bank. Is this the right thing to do? What would you do?
2006-10-17 14:37:45 · 21 answers · asked by kelliemag 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i think you are doing great by rewarding her for a job well done.. and she is mimicking your behavior by rewarding you. take the money and thank her (just like you want her to do i am sure) then sneak it back to her just like you have been doing. good job mom!
2006-10-17 14:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you are doing the right thing. I have a 5 year old and she does the same thing she always wants to put money in my jar instead of hers. I tell her I will split it with her so we count out she gets one quarter I get one and so on. We don't necessarily count out 1dollar 2 dollars just the different coins. (I put the differance in her jar when she's not around.) Because of that she knows what each coin is. It helps with her math and money skills. She may be young but I don't think its ever to young to learn something. I also have a nine year old and he did the same things.
Something that I do with my kids you might like is every time they get money for ANYTHING birthday, Christmas, allowance I make them put half in there piggy bank and they can spend the other half how ever they want. When they get $50 in there piggy bank we take it to the real bank it makes them feel like they achieved something.
2006-10-17 15:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by ebsharer 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
my daughter use to do that she will be 5 in march now shes excited to help out around the house to get an allowence to buy a my little pony walking baby pony toy thingy lol i think it will help her out in the future the right thing to do ... my daughter has 4 piggy banks she likes to seperate her money dimes quarters nickles and so on and a special container for her own saving to buy toys and i live on a very very tight budget only 1,400 a month
2006-10-17 18:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by halicon2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is sweet, i have 2 yr old that does the same. It just proves that they do realize all you do. and they understand the concept of give and take, and sharing. It just proves you did a great job raising him, because he knows what to do to show you how much he appreciates it. Although it money, and not a card or picture. Its all in all the concept, but i wouldnt feel bad about sneaking it back, afterall, he probably isnt old enough to count the money, so just keep sneaking it.. :)
2006-10-17 15:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by littledsboo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your child's only 4 years old, so it shouldn't be such a big deal. However, if he/she actually realizes that you're putting the money back into the piggy bank and becomes upset, you might as well keep the money to prevent further trouble. Otherwise, accept his/her courtesy when she offers the money, and sneak the money back. personally, I think this is pretty cute, how your child is so selfless and how you care so much.
2006-10-17 14:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by hippiekiss 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you put the money back into her piggy bank she will think that she can make more money just by snapping her fingers.
what you need to do is: put the money she gives you into your own "piggy bank" ie a safe place.
when she does what you ask of her "pay her" but not all at once.
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keep all of the money she gives you in a safe place.
when she runs out of money she will realize that she needs to keep an eye on her investments.
this next step is important, tell her "If you want to earn some money why don't you do some chores around the house. if you do a good job I will pay you."
but instead of paying her with your money, pay her with the money she gave you.
2006-10-17 14:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My little boy does this too. We have a coin jar in our room and always tell him. Mommy and Daddy have enough you keep so you can have a jar like ours. We also set goals for him to earn money for things. He saved 150 dollars to go to Disney World with his grandparents.
2006-10-17 14:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by chippie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That sounds so cute! 4 year olds have no concept of money at that age. Just take it then put it back without her knowing. Wait till she gets older...she'll be asking for more than what she's been earning.
2006-10-17 14:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
just put it back in his bank and I think you will be fine
My 3 year old had a tantrum at the bank because they would not "share" there money.
not relevant I know but a little funny
2006-10-17 17:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by boo goose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When and how would she spend it? I think that's way too young to be giving an allowance. She can't really keep track of it and I doubt that she will connect the helping around the house and the money when it comes time to buy something.
Either make her keep it and save it or just give her treats/toys when she helps you.
2006-10-17 14:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by roguetrader2000 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Put it in the piggy...good job.....let's just hope when the time comes...they ask for money...you have some.
2006-10-17 14:45:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋