Anyone out there with personal experience - tips etc? I have gotten HEAPS better but i still have a lifetime to live with this.
2006-10-17 14:28:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I don't think you ever let go. You just learn to live with the fact that she is never coming back. And God has her now. Believe me I know I lost my daughter 2 years ago.
2006-10-17 14:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by dreamsjv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss.
And you will live with it for a lifetime. So far my losses have been it the proper order. Parents are gone, siblings are living and all my kids and grand kids are OK.
So the sequence is part of the problem. You are not supposed to loose a sibling at 21 years of age. That person is supposed to live to 70+ years, then a death is in sequence. If you feel that the grief is more than it should be or something is nagging at you I suggest you talk to a grief counselor. You may have unresolved issues with your sister. If that is the case, only knowledge and understanding of those issues will help. Often times just knowing why something is happening can help in the healing process.
This really is doable. I've done it, not from your end but I have done it. It isn't smoke and mirrors so please give it a try. A local minister or funeral director should be able to point you in the right direction. The county coroner's office may also be a resource. I hope you can find peace.
2006-10-17 21:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your lose, that is a toughie you ask. Time, the grief turns to sweet memories. These are what keeps her close to your heart. You had a dear sister, for that be thankful. Life gets better slowly. Many yrs ago I too lost a brother, he was 19. Often my sister & I have mentioned how it still seems like yesterday. The hurt is still there. No magic answers. Except for one for me, 10yrs after his death I had a son who looks exactly like him. Even how he talks & acts. Helped the whole family. Strange.
2006-10-17 21:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost someone close to me,and it is hard to let go but, you do have to let go. I just try to think about all the fun times we had and know that she would definitely want you to live to the fullest and just remember all the laughs, talks good times you two shared. I hope this helps in some way . nothing can replace her but you will never forget. keep Jesus close.
2006-10-17 21:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by puddnrea10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your loss, but death of a loved one is hard to overcome. Maybe you should try a support group or counceling we all need help once in a while and you don't need to let go , just learn to move on with out it taking over your life
2006-10-17 21:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive lost lots of loved ones.. and some of them u never really get comepletely over... but.. u do get better and there is a way out of the valley.. just takes time.. unfortunatly our souls heal much slower than our bodies.. and ur sister will probably always be a kind of sore subject.. but itll get better.. i pray alot when im goin through something.. and that helps me.. but ull find ur own thing that helps u..
good luck and God Bless!!!
2006-10-17 21:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by jesusfreaktillthedayidie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will always be in your heart ..Just know that one day you will see her again..Memories of all the GOOD times is what you should be happy about..It's hard I can imagine but it will fade away as far as the hurt but never the memories..Remember the good times..
2006-10-17 21:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize (truly believe) that she is now at her true home and is very happy.
Many near death experiencers say it was so good on the other side, they didn't want to come back.
2006-10-17 21:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss. I don't think you can ever let go. She will always be with you. It's ok to keep her alive in your heart.
2006-10-17 21:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Twinklestar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day at a time
2006-10-17 21:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋