I was hanging out with this guy and we ended up sleeping together...and he constantly told me how much he liked me and was sooooo sweet and caring. We spent a week straight together...and then suddnely he wanted tos low down, which was fine, I thought we were kind of going too fast anyway, but I really really liked him.We didn't really spend time together after that, but we talked a lot. Then a couple weeks later I found out he got back together w/ his ex who cheated on him and he didn't even have the decency to tell me. It broke my heart. I haven't talked to him since. I just can't believe he would use me like this. How can someone say the things he said & then do this? Am I stupid to miss him? And did he just use me or what? I just feel so stupid...and it hurts because I don't just sleep with anyone. I take sex seriously and he knew that.
2006-10-17 14:08:34 · 8 answers · asked by helplesslyfalling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well that really sucks i know..but apparently he has a different motive: he is lonely and is trying to get over his gf....but it didn't work and he's still in love with her no matter what had happened..
as for you, yes, he might have known that you value intimacy that much but is he aware too that you are taking it exclusively with him? did he tell you that he feels something about you? i know this is not what you want to hear but reality bites - there's nothing you can do about it now...you owned the relationship early on and expected something from it...yes, he mislead you and it's really bad..
what happened to both of you is this : he was lonely and needed some company, you were there and was willing to give it to him then you fall prey...all you can do now is move on and forget him...men can always have different women in their lives but there is only one who will stand out in their hearts...sorry but it isn't you...
2006-10-17 14:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would want revenge, and I would try to make an appearance while he was with his girlfriend, and make it seem as though we were still together and hopefully cause a lot of strain on their relationship. He doesn't deserve either one of you. But what goes around comes around, and you are better off without him. I hope you get some closure for this and find someone better to help you get over him. No, it's not stupid to miss him because your feelings were real, and you can't prevent that.
2006-10-17 14:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up as a learning experience...
He's not worth your time or tears... He's not a man... No man treats a woman like that.. That's why I think it is better to wait on sex because of the emotional baggage...
Grab some Cherry Garcia, rent you a good Cary Grant film, write him an angry letter about what a worthless piece of crap he is, tear it up or burn it, and then go find yourself a real man that will love and respect you...
2006-10-17 14:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a guy. Some just say those things to get what they want. Anyway move on. Hes not sitting around thinking of you. So why should you think about him.
Good Luck
2006-10-17 14:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just good con artists and they dont care about any thing or anyone but themselves and they want what they want and they will do just about any thing to get what they want. i would send him a serious love letter about a time that he was with his girl friend and make sure she gets the note and let her think that he was with you when he got back with her that would surely cook his goose and he would certainly deserve it. and then maybe you will feel better about the jerk, and then dont worry about him any more he didnt mean any thing he said and you are gonna have to get over him hes not worth your trouble any way
2006-10-17 14:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah dont worry he is in the wrong not you.. take it as a learning experience dont let anybody do that to you again. It will hurt and only time will make it better good luck
2006-10-17 14:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were rebound. all women take sex seriously. it makes an emotional attachment to the people they sleep with. unlike men, where sex is just sex.
2006-10-17 14:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, this guy is a ******* assssshole! ****, dont give a damn about him, ull soon forget him, im sorry that u had to learn it the hard way but hey, u know what tehy say, if it doesnt kill you it only makes you stronger...
2006-10-17 14:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by mememe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋