i want to move out with my boyfriend, i'm sick of living with my mom and she controls every aspect of my life. she wants me to pay her 300 in rent and i dont even have my own privacy. she just thinks my bf is a loser, she's done this my whole adult life and she never exepts anyone, she even tells me to friken wash my hands before i eat!! i'm 23 and i want to move out she is tottally crazy but i dont want to hurt her, should i do it?
2006-10-17 14:07:18 · 6 answers · asked by laura d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Things are not going to be better living with your bf. It sounds like your mother is just concerned about, a little protective maybe, but concerned. Well, if you move out with your bf how much rent will you be paying? He will soon grow tired of you. I would much rather have my mother controlling me than my bf. When you move in with him, you will be having to answer to him about every thing. Trust me, been there done that........If you move out of your mother's house let it be on good terms, never burn bridges. Your mother will be there for you when your bf is long gone...... Do you know how many people wish that their mother would tell them what to do? She is concerned and loves you very much, if she didn't she wouldn't be telling you these things. Besides, you are never too old to get your mother's advice. I am 30 years old and still ask my parents for their advice.
2006-10-17 14:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I say if you think its better to move out...then do it. I am in a similar situation, same thing...problems with my mom and the fact that she wants to control every aspect of my life, and my boyfriend does want me to move in with him. However, we both have to consider "How long we've been with these guys and make sure that we are completely ready to make such a big commitment." Because if for some reason you do it just to spite your mom, what do you think is going to happen if moving in with your boyfriend is not working out? We both have to consider every possible aspect of the situation and make sure that its the right thing to do, before we do anything irrational. If you know you have to move out, perhaps you should try living by yourself or with some roommates first, then once you get used to it and you know for sure that you are ready...then maybe it will be time to start talking about moving in with your boyfriend. The only reason I am still contemplating what I am going to do is because I am not quite sure if moving in with my boyfriend is the right thing to do. I mean, you say that you want privacy, but can you honestly handle being with your boyfriend 24-7...and if your answer is yes (for sure) then maybe you are ready. Just remember to do whatever makes you happy, even if it is moving in with your boyfriend and leaving your mother behind.
2006-10-17 21:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey $300 a month isn't bad...try living on your own and paying rent, food, utilities, and on and on...does this guy have a job? do you? don't jump into anything because you may be sorry later. IF you are a responsible young lady who can financially support herself with a job, pay her own rent, and all the expenses that go along with independent living, WITHOUT running home when the going gets tough, then go ahead...best of luck to you.
2006-10-17 21:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move out with roommates, NOT with your boyfriend. I'm not against living with a boyfriend to see if your relationship is strong enough for marriage - but it shouldn't be taken lightly - or as an excuse to escape your mom. I think you SHOULD move out and will learn SO much more about yourself living on your own or with friends/roommates. Good luck!
2006-10-17 21:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tracie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what u want to do,then do it. You don't mention a dad,is he still in the picture? does mom not want to be alone,this could be a scary situation for her. Moms always want the best for their children,she believes she is looking out for your best interest. No one wants to see their off springs hurt. Try being honest to her and gentle,find out why she don't like your boyfriend,try to understand her feelings.Its not easy being a parent and yes we do suffer from empty nest syndrome Good luck.
2006-10-17 21:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by matthehat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like your living conditions, by all means, move out on your own.
2006-10-17 21:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋