Normally I'm very secure in the fact that I'm single. In fact I love it, and I have loved it for pretty much ever! But now it seems like everyone is dating, or crushing or being crushed ON. And it's starting to bring me down, I don't know why suddenly I could feel this way when I've been so secure about it for so long. I know that someday someone will come along but I just can't shake this feeling of wanting someone and feeling inferior because I don't have someone.
2006-10-17 14:03:27 · 16 answers · asked by LalaLola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't feel inferior. You are just feeling lonely right now.
2006-10-17 14:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been noticing that for me also. I have been single for four and some years now. I am 21 and its been since I was seventeen. There are many reasons why but perhaps the biggest one is time.
Anyway, I wouldn't say I necessarily enjoy the single life but I always let out a sigh of relief when I see a couple fighting becuase I sure don't miss that LOL
In general I would say the good in a relationship should outweigh the bad and anyway for whatever reason you are staying single for, continue until the time comes that something changes. Like for me it will be graduating college.
Anyway, as I said up there, I feel something in the air and nights are a little lonely lately cause I see all my friends with girlfriends and wives and I look forward to that! Good luck and don't be sad cause life is tooooo short!
2006-10-17 21:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called hormones and growing up. It happens to everyone. Don't dwell on it and feel inferior. It happens to everyone. Cheer up, enjoy life, have a great personality, use your brain and go to college and one day, he will appear. Don't be a lemming and jump off the cliff, because all the others are doing it. Would you take heroin, just because everyone else is doing it. You have a brain, use it wisely. You sound too impatient! Once you become attached, you will wish that you had the freedom that you have now!
2006-10-17 21:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by cab veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Is your BD comes soon? I had the same feeling when I was single, especially close to my BD. It just a mood swing. You'll swing out of it soon. It great to be single but you do need companionship once in a while, just to do things with. I did not marry until I was 30. I waited to find a good guy to marry. I found one and have been married for almost 10 years.
2006-10-17 21:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by TheOne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. A nice guy will come along and sweep you off your feet. You'll spend $45,000 on your wedding. You'll have 3 kids. And then you'll find out the nice guy is really a mean drunk. You'll take anti-depressents and scream at your kids. Eventually, you'll grow old and get divorced because you had an affair with someone 15 years younger. And that'll be the highlight of your life.
2006-10-17 21:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by b4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are overwhelmingly good that you will meet someone and fall in love as long as your expectations do not exceed the ridiculous.
But let's not pretend. It's a know fact that people were not meant to live alone. That's why married people live longer. There is a biological as well as cultural reason(s) why we search for our mates.
There are billions of people in the world and now 300 million in the USA. The odds are in your favor.
2006-10-17 21:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u really dont need to worry, ill tell u wat, i feel the same way as u do, i never had a boyfriend but i had a few crushes and i really dont want 1 right now, honestly i feel that right now i shouldnt worry of such a thing....i like being with my friends and stuff like that, not dating at least just for now, and all of my friends r going out or having boyfriends...i know wat it feels like, but then again i think just cuz every1 has them doesnt mean i should, boyfriends arent a trend to me, if i want 1 then i should get 1, 100% my opinion, not cuz every1 else has them. a teacher told me this advice and it just feels right, so dont worry or dont even pressure urself cuz ur not alone. when ur time comes to date cuz of u want to then itll b more enjoyable...but...isnt it nice to b single now sister?!?! lol :) good luck!
2006-10-17 21:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well
Don't be in any big hurry
And jump on the first guy that looks sweet at you.
Give yourself time to really figure out what you want now that you are not so secure in your single life.
2006-10-17 21:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lala, i think that its normal, specially when you beging to leave your 20's. but dont feel bad, dont feel pressured neighter, your time to find the one will come. take your time in getting to know the guy u will be with. focus on doing something new, that you like. dont let the pressure that everyone is having someone or everyone is getting marrying to hit you. just focus on your studies or career. everything else will come.
2006-10-17 21:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has that "eternal clock" that is just ticking away inside them. Maybe, it's time for your 'alarm' to be going off. What i mean is, you've been so 'content' with being single.... maybe now, it's time to try the "other way around" ? ... Just a thought to 'ponder'.
2006-10-17 21:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by JSSK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋