I've never been into just going on 'dates' and having fun. I WISH I was. I've spent a lifetime just waiting to meet a guy with that certain 'thing'. How do I become more adventurous and get out there for some fun dates? I know that I'm an attractive woman... I think that becoming a regular 'dater' would just have to be my choice. I also know that I could definitely make myself more approachable. Why is it something that is so difficult for me? Does anyone else relate?
2006-10-17 13:57:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not abnormal. I am the same way and a lot of my friends are, too. It used to be that you could date and not be considered "easy", but times have changed. As you know, you do not have to sleep with everyone you date, but people automatically think that you do.
Personally, I get attached easily to someone that I relate to. I am the jealous type and I could not handle someone that I care about dating someone else, either. Also, I think about the other person involved and how he would feel knowing that I was seeing other people. If I am interested in seeing other guys, then I know that the guy I am seeing is not who I am looking for. Hope this helps.
2006-10-17 14:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, that is perfectly normal that you're waiting for a guy with a certain "thing" like you say. I can totally relate, i'm not into dating guys and then decide if i had fun or not and keep seeing him or not. I would rather get to know the guy and then we start dating and it lasts! To become more adventurous, i think you could just try going out on a fun date, just once, to start off with. And if you like it then you're question is answered, if not then maybe try it once again? Just try and take risks, i guess :) good luck! but dont forget to also have fun!
2006-10-17 21:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by KiMMY_XoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two schools of thought here. Number One: you can spend a lot of time getting therapy to discover why you act this way, or, Number Two: you can just forget about it and get out there and take some risks for the sake of love. I would do Number Two. And I would do it by going to places where you can actually meet decent men. Take an evening class that you know other men will be interested in (not crocheting). Join some large volunteer effort (Habitat for Humanity) where men might be likely to be (not Breast Cancer as noble as that cause is). Attend religious services at a large worship place where there are likely to be some nice guys. Watch for interesting looking guys pushing carts in the grocery store too, by the way. It is so easy to meet single men in grocery stores. A perfect opportunity. Now get out there and try it. :)
2006-10-17 21:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are abnormal you are just careful. I am the same way. It's nothing wrong with waiting and not taking the first to come along. No don't be a regular dater, your reputation could get ruined that way. Even if you are just Friends with a lot people(men) it will be viewed that you are always with different men. I am not saying to be overly concerned with the opinions of others either but you have to be mindful of how we carry ourselves. Just continue to wait and the right one will come.....
2006-10-17 21:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completely normal. When you meet the right man you will find yourself not wanting to be a casual dater, you will want to settle down. It takes time, you will know when you are ready. There is no certain age or time, when youre ready it will just happen.
2006-10-17 21:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by tulsaoklahoma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you still have a purity that msot attractive women lose very early - keep it!! why have fun with any guy it makes you feel....hollow somehow if you meet a person thats right for you thne you have more fun than u ever thought possible and feel complete...maybe you can make yourself more approachable but dont make dating completely about fun...please!
2006-10-17 21:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by andrew h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Every guy i date i treat like a potential husband. I think there is only solution to this problem, is to date a couple of guys at the same time. I am serious.
2006-10-17 21:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casual dating is for the birds... Most people end up with enough emotional scars... Just be patient and when the right guy comes along... You'll know...
2006-10-17 21:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so wise beyond your years- true love will defiantly come to someone, who is as special as you, i have a nephew, like you,he wanted agood wife, but did`nt get into the dating scene much.but, he did find a good woman & married her.don`t worry love will find you-especially if you not looking for it.
2006-10-17 21:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dono but u just earned me 6 points just by writing this. Hope u get ur answer.
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2006-10-17 21:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by jclyons95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋