THEY THINK IM NOT INTERESTED INA BF! BUT I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY! NOT FOR HIS LOOKS CAUZE HE HAS AVERAGE LOOKS, BUT BECAUSE HE'S SOOO SWEET AND CLEVER AND SUPER SMART! ANYWAY, MY PARENTS KEEP TELLING ME THAT THEY WERENT INTERESTED IN GUYS AND GILRS UNTILL THEY WERE LIKE 18! ANOTHER FOUR YEARS? I CANT WAIT THAT LONG! THEY EXPECT ME NOT TO GO ON ONE DATE TILL IM PRACTICALLY IN COLLEGE? AND THEY WILL FREAK OUT IF I TELL THEM EVEN IN THE NICEST CLEVERST WAY! IT'S ANNOYING! HELP!
2006-10-17 13:51:29 · 29 answers · asked by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try this--at age 14, parents get nervous about labels such as dating, boyfriend, etc. Tell them that you know a really nice guy that you are friends with. Introduce him to them. Let them drive you two to the movies or out to eat. Don't tell them you want to date him or anything, just say you enjoy his company, he is really smart, good influence,etc. They will love that you let them into your life and soon your guy will be very welcome in your home and it will be no problem doing stuff with him. Don't try to fight this as a power play that you can date, etc. Get them on your side. Plus you and your guy will have a MUCH better time of it if the parents know and trust him. Good luck!
2006-10-17 14:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are probably being like that because they care about you. (As weird as that sounds.) They don't want you getting into trouble by having a boyfriend at your age. Boys at your age can be... well, rather reckless. It's probably not that they don't trust you, but they don't trust your potential boyfriend.
Try to have a talk with them if you're completely sure that this boy likes you and you like him. They'll understand if you try to have a heart-to-heart conversation with them, so don't snap at them (even though you might feel like you want to) or complain. Just try your best to make them understand how you feel.
Good luck!
2006-10-17 20:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Koko 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't fool yourself. Guys only want 1 thing. Especially young fellas. Sex and your virginity and another notch on the bed post. If females want sweet and clever we'll give it to them, whatever they want, but understand, we have ulterior motives, like your virginity and sex anytime we want. It's all we care about. Take my 2 cents and do with it what you please, but it's bona fide real. Females are just eye candy and they look tasty, but when they get old and worn out they get kicked to the curb ... and usually before that because we were created to enjoy variety ... Good luck to you. But I would wait, because we will use and abuse you and get rid of you. Especially if our family is well off and we have a multi-million dollar trust fund waiting for us ...
2006-10-17 21:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My family was kind of the same because I was so shy around guys growing up. But I still wanted a boyfriend. Just do it, I know you are younger than me, I am 25, but start dating then tell your family. I just told my family after I was in a decent long term relationship.
2006-10-17 20:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by h.marieh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your parents think you aren't mature enough for a boyfriend. I'd stick with talking to your parents about this, find ways to convince them that you are, actually mature. Sneaking behind their backs to poll strangers on the Internet -- not a mature way to deal with this issue.
2006-10-17 20:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by question_ahoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feeling... Its not bad to have a nice BF but your parents know whats right for you because they love you so much and they really care about what your doing...
If you really love your BF, just keep your relationship stable and dont take to much serious, without your parents guidance...
2006-10-17 21:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Rainier 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, STOP SHOUTING! WE CAN HEAR YOU JUST FINE! Ahem.
Now then, if you ask me, you could try making friends with this boy, and ask him to be first on your list when your parents finally let you start dating at...18, was it? (My, that *is* a while to wait.) But all right, 18, and in meantime, be friends. At the same time, you could try negotiating that age with them, right? (Or did you say you couldn't. Oh well.) Just remember, absense makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-17 20:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun your 15,
sure the whole boy friend thing is cool, and i loved having boyfriends, you can have one, but just tell your parents you living in the momment, you like him now, and you want to be with him,
tell them its not like your going to marry him,
let them no that you know how old you are but you still want to experiment
2006-10-17 21:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Boots 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So why don't you ask him to come over and meet your parents!! Then they will be able to see for themselves what a nice guy he is and they might be more comfortable letting you go on dates with him....It wouldn't hurt to try!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 20:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by ?rukkaloca24? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents, they are right. You should wait until you are 18 to date. Nothing is running away and you will survive.
2006-10-17 20:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋