she has serious medical problems and my father died about 4yrs ago of cancer after a 9 yr battle. she is always up in arms and upset about everything. And on top of it all the money situation sucks. I feel that she resents me for wanting to live my life, like a normal 18 yr old.....wat do you think?
2006-10-17 13:43:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is probably insecure about you "leaving" her. She has already lost your Dad, so she is clinging tighter to you. It is normal in that situation. But, it can stifle your growth. Sit down with her during a calm time & emphasize to her that you do love her, but it is time to start forging a more adult relationship. You are more independent now, but it doesn't mean that you have to grow emotionally apart.
2006-10-17 13:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she has medical problems... I don't know if she resents your rebellion or what.. When you say "normal" 18 year old...
You don't sound like you have a "normal" situation with your parents, your father being passed on and your mother sick... Money situation being a problem.
If things were "normal", say your mother was able to work a more steady job and maintain a little better than average salary so as to afford a semi comfortable state.
Are you living in a trailer? Renting an apartment? Government housing? What exactly are you saying when you say live a "normal" 18 year old's life.
Some girls are mothers at 18, some are wives. Some go to college, some go to work.
Where do you fall into what category? Need more information...
2006-10-17 13:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for a meeting of the minds.
If she wants to be 18 and start making up her own mind then she needs to start pumping some money into the family coffers.
With every freedom there is a concurrent responsibility
If she wants to be a kid.....then she listens to you.
and the arguement is ended
2006-10-17 13:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it is normal. My mother and I disagreed about most things at that age. When I was about 25 she and I had a huge blow out but we worked it out and have been fine ever since.
give her some time to accept that you aren't 12 anymore. If the $ situation sux then get a job and move out.
2006-10-17 13:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach her with curiousity. How does your vision of a normal 18 year old's life differ from what she is talking about? Let her speak uninterrupted, then ask questions from a genuinely curious place.
2006-10-17 13:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by bethany94609 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your plate full. If her medical issues are that bad, maybe she is worrying about passing as well. Since finances are bad, maybe she is worried about all the troubles you may be left with. Reach out to her & talk it out. You may become closer while explaining that you must live for yourself.
2006-10-17 13:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by moonbaby3504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the best u can to always try to make your mom happy, cherise the time you to have together.. i have a 15 year old daughter and we disagree on everything but we comprimise,she does things to make me happy and me visvera
2006-10-17 13:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by WITCHY WOMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I never really got along and still don't. I am 27. She is just being a mother. They want you to live up to the preconceived, pre-planned ideas they have for your life. Eventually she should ease up on you.
2006-10-17 13:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya on every thing. I think it gets better with time, only if you let it. Give your mom space. If it's that bad, then move away. That'll surely give u space. It's normal to disagree. That's how me and my mom are sometimes.
2006-10-17 13:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by missinterlectual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal and you will have many more disagreements, try talking more openly with each other, sounds like the both of you are under alot of stress
2006-10-17 13:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋