yeah my boyfriend and i want to have sex but he asked me what i wanted to do and i was kinda iffy i didn't know anything i only know a little about of sex I know i can get pregnet and all that but he was asking about position and if i wanted him to go down on me...I want him to but i don't know how to tell him w/out felling....awkward?? he says i shouldn't be ashamed and that he won't force anything on me and that makes me feel comfortable. and i want to give him a BJ but i have no experience of it at all. what should i do? I love him so much and i want to prove it.
~Katelynn
2006-10-17 13:41:21 · 26 answers · asked by CutThroatKatie69 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you can't talk about sex, diseases, and birth control in a mature, responsible manner with your partner without feeling "awkward" then you're too young to play with sex. AND if you can't ask your parents about sex, disease and birth control, then you know you shouldn't be doing it. Wait until you're both mature enough to talk about it before deciding to do it.
2006-10-17 13:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I won't lie, Sex is fun. But I would suggest just waiting til your married. I didn't, and after being married for 7 years with a brand new baby, I would tell you that I wish I had. I know you really love him, but if you do, then you have years to have sex. And if things don't work out, you will probably feel bad someday explaining to your husband why you didn't love him enough to wait. And that goes both ways, he should love you enough to wait for you. I know that is so hard to think about right now, but trust me, it will work out best. If it isn't something you can do without being ashamed of, it's not something you really want to do. Cause there is no shame in having sex with your hubby! Just wait it out. Talk it out. And guess what, A BJ isn't really all that fun. Not for you anyhow! You do it when you really love you husband because you really love him. It isn't a way to prove anything. Plus, it is a little scary to think that something that may only last a minute or two could kill you (AIDS) or maybe not kill you and leave you with Herpes or something you have to deal with many times a year for the rest of your life. And that you can get even if you don't go "all the way." Write to me if you want to talk....
2006-10-17 20:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miss Katelynn,
If you really want to prove that you love him, then don't have sex with him. Prove his words, he said he'll wait...MAKE HIM! You sound too young to be thinking about sex. All sex does is makes you emotionally attached to that person, and then when they finished with you, it leaves you with emotional scares. Don't do it baby girl, if you virgin, stay virgin. When you sleep with a guy, he takes apart of you that you will never get back. Your spirits connect, and if that's not your husband, again that's going to turn out bad in the end. All of these nice people are being honest with you, it's up to you to listen, we have been there and done that. Thanks for giving us an opprotunity to intervene in your life. Plz, wait until you are married, it's best that way.
2006-10-17 21:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by missinterlectual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, I would - first - recommend that you avoid actual intercourse until you are both either 18 or married. Preferably married.
Secondly, go get on birth control immediately.
Thirdly, there is a lot of fun stuff you guys can do together that isn't actual intercourse.
Fourthly, no manual will help you learn how to have sex. You need to ask the individual person what that individual person likes or feels good. If you can't talk to them about it, then you are not at the point in your relationship to have sex. period.
2006-10-17 20:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by katrinaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katelynn you sound very very young. Before you do anything, like have sex, think about what could happen as a reaction to having sex...pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, death.
You don't know anything about sex my dear, therefore you should not HAVE sex.
You are more concerned with what sexual position to "do it" instead of worrying about the more serious repercussions.
Can you afford to get pregnant? Can you afford to give up your life for a baby for one night of sex? It isn't worth it. If this guy "LOVES YOU" he will respect you and wait until you are old enough to know what sex is, really is!
Call your local planned parenthood hotline girl and get some serious help for your urges.
2006-10-17 20:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by misty_2243 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to have sex, have sex but visit this website first www.plannedparenthood.org and search for things like sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy. There's plenty of information on both and how to prevent the spread of STI's and how to prevent pregnancy. Before having sex with your boyfriend go together to planned parenthood. Get sti tests and you might want to consider going on hormonal birth control to prevent pregnancy. You can also pick up free condoms and ask plenty of questions. The people that work there are there to help you! Good luck!
As for wanting to be good at it or wanting to prove your love, talk to him. Ask him what he likes. Sex is just sex though, it won't prove love though. Only do these things if you want.
2006-10-17 22:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read books. Watch some dirty movies, you will learn alot believe it or not. Now, in order to enjoy sex, you must let yourself go to the sensations your feeling...behind closed doors, you can be the biggest slut there ever was as long as it's just for your man, and you and he keep it between yourselves. If he does something you don't like tell him ...preferably nicely if you can....If does something you like let him know it will get him going more. If there is something you want him to do or a certain place you want him to be, tell him, you'll both learn each others bodys that way. The smartest thing you can do, is not trust the birth control to him. Men forget stuff easier with no blood in their brain. Get on some kind of birth control...the pill, the patch, something that will last more than just that one session. It's always better to have him wear a condom also..every little bit helps. But whatever you do , don't let a condom be the only protection.
2006-10-17 20:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You seem to be too young girl, If you love someone you wil be in a position to talk to him openly, And dont just jump to sex, You should know that person for a while before jumping into bed with him.
How old are you girl.
2006-10-18 00:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like to infrom you that the first think you need its a blood test about sifilis herpes hiv vrl you know why because you can get one of this doing a bj and with penetration so if you wan to have sex the first thing you need are those blood test then use protection and why not better practice abtinence thats the best you should do but if you cant please take the previous step i told you and read about std before you have sex you should know what you are expousing to before you do it
2006-10-17 21:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by user 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that uncomfortable talking about it, maybe consider giving it a few more years before attempting it.
By the way, giving someone a BJ doesn't proove love...it prooves you can give a BJ.
2006-10-17 20:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle R 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋