i have a interest for a lady who has grown to be someone of value in my life.we share alot of common ground on almost everything.if we disagree about anything,we would reason it out for hours until we reach a common conclution.i find myself including her in all the activaties i like to do& im starting to follow certain habits(good) that she has tought me.we are getting very close,very fast&are growing spirtually together,but...
she has a BOYFRIENR FOR 6YRS,from primary school,through high scool&now shes doing her 1st year @ university.he isn't a bad guy,but he has no friends,no one to talk to&basically only have her to comfort his sorry ***.he says blatently that he think shes crazy,because he's not interested in the same things([HIM]computer games,sports,cars,gym,his work..[HER]nature,hiking,yoga,spiritual teachings,charity work)she told me to my face that she values&have feelings4me&that i must wait for her.i have been 4 8mnts now.
no jokes.is it wise2wait?pls help?
2006-10-17 13:35:04 · 5 answers · asked by purpleman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What!? No, it is not a good idea. She's been with him for 6 years, so you should not expect that she will break up with him no matter what kind of a chump he is. Do not try to say anything bad about him either, because it will ruin her opinion of YOU and not him. You should move on to other girls. Good luck with the next one!
2006-10-17 13:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your friendship worth putting on the line? IF she does decide to leave this guy she will go through many emotions and changes very quickly as they have been in a relationship for quite some time. You may even become a rebound relationship for her.
She may leave him for you but then return to him. At that point most likely she would start feeling uncomfortable around you and start avoiding you. You will have lost your friend and love.
I think you should wait without putting your life on hold. By that I mean let her know you are interested but don’t try to push yourself on her. Continue to be there for her and share your life with her. But don’t close your eyes to other opportunities while “waiting”.
2006-10-17 20:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by Forever Connected 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck Yes! - She is growing up and apart from this school age romance. You will probably date briefly before getting married. She is finding out exactly what she doesn't want in a man...slowly but she is realizing that time has shown her a maturity flaw with this other dude. Good Luck and keep praying with this girl The spiritual bond is a strong one.
2006-10-17 20:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by cupcake baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, what an interesting situation...You have been waiting for her for 8 months now and she hasn't done anything with her current boyfriend? I would not wait, if I were in your shoes...Go out and meet other women instead of waiting for your lady friend. At this rate, you will be waiting forever.
2006-10-17 20:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever asked her how she feels? what she thought of you? it would be a nice thing to do is ask her maybe just to a movie or something. just a thought.
2006-10-17 20:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋