so i have a boyfriend...hes name is stephen. i REALLY like him.....! but the thing is....he always flirts with this really pretty girl in our 4th period. i got mad at him for it and told him i was mad at him for doing that.....then he said thats not fair cuz im the one always flirting with guys all the time.....! most of my friends say that i flirt a lot too so i guess i do....but i dont mean to. and he obviously does. so what should i do about it??
2006-10-17 13:24:19 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit down and talk things out. Flirting is healthy....to a point. Then jealousy starts and accusations begin and then cheating starts......be honest with each other.......flirt with each other!!
2006-10-17 13:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by njsueb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You guys are still in school. It's all a part of the dating game. If you were older then I'd dump him, but right now, it's not really a big deal, is it? It's not like you guys are engaged or are going to be getting married any time soon, you know? Flirting with others in Jr High or High School is harmless, just so long as it doesn't go further than that.
Heck, you guys could even take other people out on dates and still be an "item", just don't hold hands, kiss or hug the other person.
I think you should just relax and let him be. He's right, if you're flirting, then what's wrong with him doing it?
2006-10-17 20:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how can you ask someone to stop doing what you do also? That is called being a hypocrite! You have to stop first. Then tell him to stop. But in my past experience, if a guy is flirting all the time, that is not the only thing he is capable of doing. So I would break up with him, it would save you a lot of heartache later on down the road. I was in high school once, and I lived this once. I know it isn't what you want to hear though!
2006-10-17 20:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, you cannot ask him to stop doing something when you yourself is doing it.
And yes, maybe you may not mean to, but thats the way other people perceive you to be, including your boyfriend.
I suggest you evaluate yourself first. Change, if there is a need to be, has to come from within us before we can actually ask somebody else to do the same.
Otherwise, get yourself another boyfriend to hang around with.
2006-10-17 20:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 options.
1. Nag, cry, get upset, get mad over and over and always demand he stop- though he won't.
2. Accept the fact that he flirts and doesn't care that it bugs you.
3. Dump him for someone who doesn't flirt, and cares about your feelings more.
2006-10-17 20:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, he is only flirting and besides you do it to.
And if you cant get over date a geek, in the long run they are the ones who will have the money anyways.
2006-10-17 20:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by E_E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he wants is too be fair, if u play ur part and control and contain ur flirtin, and be fair with him then u both can be happy, But if u are a flirty type of girl, maybe ur not the type for a relationship? think about it.
2006-10-17 20:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALRIGHT well if he does that flirt w/ his friends like put ur arm around his friends and stuff make him jelous and make him stop and if he asked why you are doing that say well your doing it to do yeah i can do it to !!!
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2006-10-17 20:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a effort not to flirt with others and maybe he will follow your lead.
2006-10-17 20:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are both too young for a serious, comitted relationship, if, as you say, you are both flirting with others.
2006-10-17 20:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋