My boyfriend and I have known each other since the 8th grade, we've only been dating 6 months but we are engaged. We don't plan on getting married until after we both graduate, in like November or something. I don't want to tell my parents because I'm a little scared of what they will say. But it kills me to not tell them because his whole family knows. I wear my ring all of the time and they stare right at it and don't say anything. What if they don't let me see him anymore? What should I do?
2006-10-17 13:15:34 · 10 answers · asked by TiffaLynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm turnin 18 in 2 months, and I graduate in June..but we plan on waiting until November-ish. Yes they know him, and seem to like him.
2006-10-17 13:21:53 · update #1
I think you are making a mistake.
Your family does not say anything to you about your ring because they probably don't want to admit it to themselves. They don't want you to be too proud. Personally, I think you are too young. I'm not sure if you are able to go to college or not, but if that is an option for you, I say choose it. I'm not saying break up with your fiance, but you will experience and find a lot of good things while being out on your own for a while - new friends, good memories, and possibly even someone that you love more than your fiance. You have not even been out in the world yet...you have the rest of your life to live, so are you 100% positive that your fiance is the one you want to spend it with? If so, great. You're luckier than most of us. I know it may not seem like it, but you still have a lot of emotional and personal growth laid out in front of you. You have yet to encounter it. And are you sure that your fiance will stay with you through all that? Talk about it with him.
However, if you do stick with your decision, tell your family the truth. Right now. They will learn to respect your decision eventually, if they do not at first. They will do this simply because they will want to keep you close and not let you drift away. Your family is the one thing you can count on to love you through thick and thin. So eventually they'll accept your decision, whether it be right or wrong.
2006-10-17 13:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mellio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
graduate in November? where do you go to school? and are you in college of high school? it sound like your in high school. if you aren't, just tell them you can make your own decisions. now you said they may not let you see him anymore so that sounds high schools.you dint know what they would do or say. if you think you are adult enough to get married be an adult and tell them. they may have seen the ring and may be waiting for you( their daughter) to tell them
2006-10-17 20:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by HERE4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Why would you even think of getting engaged and not tell your parents? Do they even know this boy? I have never heard someone worry about their parents allowing them to see their fiance.
2006-10-17 20:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as you are 18 they can't make you do anything...
So, just tell them and let the chips fall were they may...if they aren't happy right away, they'll come along...I'm sure they just want what is best for you!
2006-10-17 20:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are graduating in Novemeber then you should be around 18 years old, that will be your choice if you want to get married or not. be honest with your mom and tell her why you think ya'll should get married. good luck
2006-10-17 20:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your parents have seen your ring then hon they already know that your going to be getting married. if it makes you feel any better sit them down and come right out and tell them with your soon to be husband with you and you'll then see how your parents feel.
2006-10-17 20:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to know HOW to tell your mother you're engaged then you're too immature to get married at all.
2006-10-17 21:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? you should live out there and know yourself before you get married and you havent even dated your "fiance" for that long either. just wait until you are 23!
2006-10-17 20:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Newlywed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come home pregnant and shell see it and say you better get married, then you say im already engaged
2006-10-17 21:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how old r u?
2006-10-17 20:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by It'S mEeH!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋