I thought this girl liked me but it turns out shes probably using me for something i have and earlier she was so excited to go to winter formal with me but now i have very high doubts and now i dont know how to tell her i dont want to go with her, (i though she liked me (sad laugh))(plus i kinda dont wanna be friends with her anyway and she said she was doing it to be "nice to me" which really pissed me off and i dont really wanna believe it but i do)
2006-10-17 12:31:12 · 21 answers · asked by clayton d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say 'Thanks, but no thanks.' Plain and simple.
If you are asked why, you say "because I don't want to.' Again, plain and simple.
If asked again, smile and remove yourself from that conversation.
2006-10-17 12:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty_Trini_Rican 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old you both are and that would help in this case. did she tell you this or did a "friend." i would call her and just say that i have heard this and if it is true then i prefer to attend the winter formal alone or with someone else. tell her you feel used and that is not a quality you want in a friend.
I am a girl and we can be mean and say things we do not mean to sound cool. (just like guys do) Maybe you are different from someone she would normally go out with and she feels pressured by her friends. saying she wants to be "nice to you" may be a way of going out with you without having her friends give her a hard time. when i met my husband i was not attracted to him but i thought he was sweet. i down played our relationship so that i didn't have to listen to my friends. he grew on me and soon my friends were saying what a nice guy he was and we went from there.
call her today. life is too short to be miserable. you still have time to find another date or to feel good about going with this one.
2006-10-17 12:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey tell her straight you don't need to be mean about it just tell her straight get to the point. Email her if you have to but being a man about it tell it to her face.
We kinda straight up in NZ well some of us are. And I know whats it like I had to do the opposite of you and he got the picture.
Hes kept in touch with me and he still asks me the same question What did I do wrong?
If there's someone else that you want to take to the dance then do it but be honest to her and tell her she was not second best.
2006-10-17 12:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by fonua275 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, whatever you do, DONT do something with a girl you dont like... unless she is very, VERY hot... jk man. your in high school right? dude, i know everything seems really important right now to you, but let me tell you, everything: the girl, the dance, the friends, its all just a detail in your life. if you dont want to go with her, make sure you tell her and tell her why. be honest, dont be affraid to be truthfull and communicate even if you think what you say will hurt her feelings. she deserves to know the truth and you deserve to tell her. dont lie, dont do anything you dont want to, its that easy. good luck buddy, i know its easier said than done.
2006-10-17 12:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Welch55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You feel like she's using you and you don't wanna go. If she has really really good excuses, then perhaps consider listening, but if you don't wanna go then neither of you will have a good time. If she gets upset, then that's her fault for using you.
2006-10-17 12:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by pantherpink25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one question... how do you know that she using you? if really believe this you just have to go up to her and say im not sure that i can go to winter formal with you and i think it would be better if we just see eachother there.... just explain how you feel and she "should" understand but who knows about some girls these days... hope this helps!
2006-10-17 12:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you think she is using you, just be honest. Tell her you have changed your mind and don't want to spend any time around a shallow person who would use someone else and just "be nice" to them.
2006-10-17 12:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be rude but i am a girl and many girls do go to a dance with guys they dont know very well so they can get to know them or be friends with them
2006-10-17 12:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by aimee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It' kind of rude of you to not take her now, especially if she has boughten a dress and everything already but I can see your point. Why don't you just approach her and tell her something came up and you can't go now.
2006-10-17 12:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are that ugly, then her being "nice to you" should be accepted. You gain an advantage (being seen with a pretty girl) and she gains whatever she's using you for.
2006-10-17 12:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to go to the dance with you. Keep it simple. If she asks why, tell your your not interested anymore. Don't smile, keep a straight face, then walk away.
2006-10-17 12:34:42 · answer #11 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋