My religion strictly says "don't marry anyone outside our religion." I kinda didn't get it. Doesn't god want us to love anyone- depsite what their beliefs, ethnicity, OR RELIGION they are? Thats what I believe, but I was afraid to question. Then I met my bf, who wasnt in my religion. My parents do not approve, because he;s not in my religion, but he makes me understand life. He's read the bible and he understands, and he questions like I do, and now I think that its ignorant to say "If you leave this religion, god will hate you!" because, what if you believe god? Do you really need a religion to tell you that every other belief is wrong and a sin? The thing is, my parents wont let me talk to my bf! They say he's a "bad association" but i think, why is he a bad association if he believes in god, just like I do, but just not in my religion? don't you agree?
2006-10-17 12:08:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There IS but one GOD.... are you sure your bf's is yours and yours his. Reading the bible is easy, knowing what it's whole intent is for the ONLY way to salvation is another.
I can read the koran or the book of Mormon, but that doesn't make their God the only God, both came centuries and centuries after we were admonished not to add or subtract from scripture.
Be very careful thinking that gods and spirit and forces and earth adn fire etc ARE GOD. For then you break his first desire for His heart.
2006-10-17 12:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
without all of the information about what religion you are this is hard to answer. However we are not to be unequally yoked. In other words, marrying someone who is does not have the same beliefs that you do is like putting a yoke on oxen of two different strengths, they will always be pulling against each other and will get no where.
It is very hard to marry someone who has a different belief system that you do. I would suggest studying the bible for yourself. Look up bible passages that have to do with marriage, love, relationships.
Here are a few other things to consider. Having a relationship with Jesus is different than having a religion. And understanding the bible is not the same as following Jesus.
The whole point is to follow Jesus who is the Way the Truth and the Life. Seek God's will for your life and for your relationship with your boy friend.
I hope this helps. Pray for wisdom my friend. God is able to help, if you are truly seeking His will for your life.
2006-10-17 12:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by redeemed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably venture to say that it isn't your religion that teaches "only marry in the Lord", so much as it is the God's word the Bible saying so. Anyway, since God was the "Originator" of the first marriage, it would stand to reason that he knows best. God’s loving interest and wisdom provide a solid basis for trusting his counsel and principles that help us to know what to look for in a marriage partner. God is concerned with our eternal welfare, thus the command to "marry only in the Lord". The benefits of doing so are numerous and should be kept in mind.
Christian mates can encourage each other and together can successfully meet different trials. Unitedly, they can resist the pressures that can weaken marriage bonds. Since both look to God and apply his wonderful counsel, they can with greater ease smooth over the rough spots and work together harmoniously instead of being competitors. Their sincere efforts to serve God and mold their lives according to his ways will contribute to a successful marriage that honors our Creator.
Are you looking for a partner who has the ability to provide you with a good life-style? Or are you seeking one who keeps true worship in first place? (Matthew 6:33) Jeremiah 17:9 warns that “the heart is more treacherous than anything else.” So we need to keep it in check. It is also good to remember that those who ignore the inspired Bible admonition and often shed many tears and suffer heartaches.
But,’ you may say, ‘I just can’t find anyone in the congregation. There are so few people my age.’ That may be true. But rest assured that God loves and cares for you. (1Peter 5:6,7) But even if you cannot now find a suitable Christian mate, prayerfully rely on God to help you pursue a chaste life as a single person. And while yet unmarried, cultivate qualities and abilities that will enable you to be a good wife and mother. (Galatians 5:22, 23)
I know what you are feeling. I was raised the same way and at 23 years old, I moved in with my boyfriend, which was a definite no-no. He didn't share my beliefs, and for a while I didn't attend Christian meetings or gatherings because I loved my life with him. Soon I found that nothing was going to be good for me. I lost my apartment; got evicted. I became so deep in debt because I stop caring about myself and life, that I had to file bankruptcy. Three years ago, we got married. That didn't make anything better. We don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. What makes it hard is that now I have started back attending Christian meetings and he does nothing, doesn't even go to his mom's church. He doesn't discourage me from worshiping the way I want, but it would be nice if we could both read our Bibles together and apply what we learn to our lives. The choice is yours; you can do what you want. I love my husband, don't get me wrong. But if someone would have told me that I would have more bad in my life than good because we don't believe the same way, I would have listened. Wait, God did tell me didn't he? I guess it's true, "you reap what you sow".
2006-10-17 14:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by mrsrrmck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is in the interpretation of the Bible. You and your boyfriend read it together. Don't just base it off of one verse. You will understand it more fully. It says also "For this reason shall a man and woman leave his mother and father." The term equally yoked just says so because it can cause friction in the marraige if you guys do not understand each other. With that said however, love is unconditional. If you both believe in God what is the problem. You can still love and respect your parents, but do what is in your heart. Believe me, my hubby and I have been married for almost a decade. My hubby is agnostic and I am Christian. It can be a hurdle yes, but if two people are willing to work at it you can have a lasting, loving relationship.
2006-10-17 12:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First is that man's law or god's law, about who to marry, Does the bf have the same god in his heart that you have? God is a forgiving god and hates no one, A church is just a building with god's name on the door, God is in your heart and believe it or not he will give you your answer ,Pray about it and then do what you feel comfortable doing but be a lady about it and pleasing to god eyes and leave the worring to the parents,show them you can make a respond able derision and they will be proud of you for it good luck keep god first
2006-10-17 12:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Digit 4156 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your a legal adult . Then you can leave the Church if you don't believe in their ways.And both of you can find one of your own.
While the Bible says to honor your parents it does not mean that you have to believe or follow every word they say. Yes its going to cause friction between you and your parents and him and his parents and both parents. your happiness comes first.
You can marry in the different religion and still be married in the lord.
God will still love both of you as you share a facet of his body called your soul no one can take that away from you.
2006-10-17 14:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually would agree with that. It sounds like what you believe about God is similar to that of this man you love. Therefore, I see no evidence that you are unequally yoked.
If sounds like you're questioning whether or not this particular set of religious creeds is right for you as much as you're asking if it's wrong to marry this man. Please set me straight if I'm off, or even out-of-line in saying so.
If I'm not off or you don't consider me out-of-line in even proposing this idea, do you believe more like your parents believe, or have you just been going with what they believe because they dragged you along in their own religious pursuits?
Let me ask you this: would you rather someone love you because they just did or would you rather they love you because they were coerced to love you? Which kind of love would be more satisfying? If you were God, which kind of love would you prefer to be loved with?
Now let's talk about your relationship. It sounds like your parents would be very upset if you married this person. Wouldn't they be equally as upset if you walked away from their religion? What if you don't marry this guy to please them then wake up to find yourself unable to adhere to the creeds of your parents' religion and, as such, found yourself with no other recourse but to walk away from following what they believe? Either way, they'd be upset, right?
If you truly love someone in your heart and you know the love between the two of you is real, how can this dishonor God? Does not the Bible say that God is love, and marriage is honorable? If you honor what God honors, then why would He hate you?
However, on the other hand, is there anything wrong with really taking the time to get to know if this relationship is the right one for you? Maybe your parents can see something you can't see right now, and they want to spare you from a heartbreak waiting to happen.
In either case, your best bet is to truly submit the relationship to God and ask Him to make it very clear to you if this man is right one for you. The thing about that is you have to be willing to be truly honest and willing to pay attention if things start to get brought to your attention that don't seem quite right.
2006-10-17 12:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Carol L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God HATES religion!!! Please don't confuse it with God. The bible says not to be unevenly yoked with an "unbeliever." If your b/f believes that's what's important. NOT RELIGION!!! Nothing would make God happier than for the two of you to abandon ALL religion for a relationship with HIM. This is the truth, DO NOT let your parents, your church leadership or anyone else tell you any different.
2006-10-17 12:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
The Bible says not to be yoked with unbelievers.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, "I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, 18 and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty."
If you really don't care about Jesus and following Him and living a life according to his will then you might as well marry whomever you want to. The prohibition above is given because people who are dedicated to Jesus want to grow in their faith and apply what the Bible says to their lives. That's why it doesn't specifically mention marriage. It could refer to going into business together or becoming roommates with someone.
So the question you have to ask yourself is "Am I really a Christian or not? Do I want to follow Jesus or do I want to enjoy the things of this world and have my own way?". Because if you don't want to follow Jesus then you might as well quit deceiving yourself about being saved just because you show up for church or something like that.
Matthew 7:21 "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
2006-10-17 12:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Religion says don't marry outside your religion. God does not have a religion. You cannot marry outside of God if you believe in him. But the difference is do you believe in God or religion.
2006-10-17 12:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋