I like my guy friend who I've only really gotten to know over the past about month. We have talked about really personal things and on the phone we were talking about friends and I said something about 10 friends and he said something about not having that many real friends and I asked if I was one of his real friends and he was like "Of course!" which is awesome. We haven't hung out outside of school except at one football game for an hr we had a personal convo outside of the field.
I don't know what to do...a lot of girls like him, he's a huge flirt, and he likes a lot of girls. I like him a lot and I don't mind him being a flirt AT ALL...it's part of who he is, but he 1. doesnt want to break any hearts and 2. said he gets bored w/ girls kinda fast. I guess that's typical for a musician, though, but I know he can be committed and stable. I like him a lot and I don't know what to do, but I WILL NOT ask him out. How can I get him to come to me? Thanx!
2006-10-17 11:50:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You probably won't like what i'm going to say but i know what i'm talking about.
Your guy is grooming you. He's keeping you on a long string because he's very aware you like him. He's the type of guy who is very aware of his attraction
for women /girls. He'll have the ones he openly flirts with, and he'll have a stable of girls he can phone to talk to when he wants. The girls he talks to on the phone are feeding his ego. He knows you fancy him and i'm sure that when you talk with him that it's all very complimentary for him, you'll be flattering him and he knows that you are hanging on his every word. If you want something more from your relationship with him, then you need to approach things from a totally different angle. Dont make yourself quite so available to him, make him think twice about what you think...don't always be there for his calls...he'll start thinkin that maybe his technique is slipping or not working and you might find that he shows more interest in you. Try it and i bet you'll find that it works.
2006-10-17 12:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.If you want to get this guy without actually asking him direct you could:
1. Show yourself to be vulnerable - guys can't resist a woman in need. 2. See if making him jealous makes him want you, tell him you are thinking about asking another guy out and study his reaction. If he looks heartbroken you will know where you stand. 3. Get into a muck about fight with him as this sometimes leads to a kiss. 4. Stop being so shy and pluck up the courage to ask him out before you miss the chance and someone else asks him first.
2006-10-17 11:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by tiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he gives oral sex... Ask him as a friend like your just curious... I know it sounds strange, but what's gonna happen is that he's gonna start to look at you in a more sexual way... If his answer is yes, give him one of those sexy looks... like really...
Then never bring it up again... He'll think about why you asked that question, and it'll get his wheels turning. Eventually, he'll make a pass at you, and you'll be in control because all you did was plant the thought in his head... and now he wants you more than you want him. If it sounds dubious, then thats because it is.
2006-10-17 12:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kontra~Diction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you have a keeper there...and if he is smart, he has one in you as well. It's rare to find someone to be friends with first...real friends, not acquaintances...that takes a bit of time to build.
Why don't you just bring the subject up next time you are talking about friendships in that way...ask him if he ever gets bored with friends...and suggest that he try dating one...such as you.
Be careful to still remain his friend though...no games...communicate well...not just often, but well. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-17 12:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe in the end he will see that you are right for him more than a friend this does happen alot. he knows that you understand him and that is more than alot of others girls would do. be patient. read tips on relationships and more to help you on this site
2006-10-17 11:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him as a friend you might not want to date him because it could ruin your friendship, but if you really like him then just hang back and give him time.
2006-10-17 11:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not gonna ask him.. then set him up for the question. Ask him indirectly like "hey what are you doing this weekend", so that he can come to you.
2006-10-17 11:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sassafrass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be as nice as possible,ask him what he likes in a girl and whatever he says he likes, try to be that way
but u also have to be yourself
:)
2006-10-17 11:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lure him with lingerie...He will not only come to you, he will come on you
2006-10-17 11:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by vegasbrother99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u dont ask you will not receive
2006-10-17 11:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋