I have been going with my boyfriend for 10 years i really love him. but this weekend his brother got married on sunday and him and the girl been dating for 1 year and decide to get married we was doing fine but all of a sudden on sat he wanted to see other people because he say i don't treat him right i wanted to work things out but he want to see other people but i cried and bugged to make him stay but i stop trying because he wanted to go so i let him but now as i sit around the house thinking the reason he broke up with me could be because his brother got married after a year with his girlfriend and he is jealous that we been together 10 years and haven't got married or do u think he found someone else please help???
2006-10-17 11:49:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is looking to get out after 10 yrs he decides you do not treat him right hes full of **** if he wanted to get married he would of done so by now..you wasted 10yrs on this jerk dump him before you waste another 10yrs sureilll
2006-10-17 11:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh baby!! Go out there and find someone else. After 10 years no ring? He is gone because he is tired of eating the same meal for so long. He is not ready for commitment and you should not allow yourself to cry or beg. Get up on your feet, get in shape and go out there. Don't look for anyone. Let them find you!
On the other hand, he's not jealous because of his brother getting married. By no means! He is just afraid you will start asking and pushing! People don't get married to that special one these days. They get married to the one they are dating when the time has come! Just be patient and find someone that will not marry you for good or for bad. Find someone who will marry you for...ever!
2006-10-17 11:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by sirlordgabriel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if you guys aren't married by NOW, then you're wasting your time. I know it's hard to hear, but I was with this guy for 9 years- and not once did he bring up marriage. And the second I brought it up, he decided he needed his "space". Then I got the picture.
Do you want to get married? Because if someone really wanted to marry you, it wouldn't take them 10 years to figure it out. Don't hang on to him anymore. It's time for you to catch up with your life, and everything you're missin out on!!
Good luck!
2006-10-17 11:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I get out of your problem, You LOVE him.If you two have been dating 10 years and not married yet, do not hold your breath, it isn't going to happen. Your man has moved on, you need to--NOW.He's not jealous his brother is married, he likes to be single and now wants to sever any ties with you he may have.Get over him.
2006-10-17 11:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be a mix of all those things. You have expressed to him that you truely care and he knows that. He may need some time to breathe. As a guy, we kinda get emotional and don't know how to deal, so we panic. If he loves you he'll be back. 10 years is a long time. He just can't let you go like that. Believe me, I know.
2006-10-17 11:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by Dazed N Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to marry you, he'd have asked. Stop making excuses for him, and stop begging him to stay. You never beg anyone to stay with you, because if he can leave you that easily after 10 years, then he wasn't meant to be with you anyway. I know it's going to take awhile because you spent 10 years of your life with him, but you are going to have to take time for yourself, figure out what you want, and then move on with your life. You deserve better then that flimsy excuse he gave you.
2006-10-17 11:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let this loser go. If you love someone enough then you'll be with them through thick and thin. If you want to see other people then that means he wants his cake and wants to eat it too. So cut him loose and move on. Good luck.
2006-10-17 14:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his brother getting married was a shock to him.. could he be afraid of commentment?? cuz 10 years is along time to be together with no commentment
2006-10-17 11:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Robyn T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that it's pretty stupid and an incredible waste of your life to be with someone for TEN YEARS and not have enough self-respect to demand a commitment.
2006-10-17 11:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him find someone else ..give them the rope to hang theirselves if they dont know a good women when see them they deserve nothing.
2006-10-17 11:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋