i need help for a friend?

Question

my friend cuts herself and wont stop i cant tell her parents b/c her dad well beat her and i can tell the councler b/c she well tell her parents but i dont know how to get her to stop b/c she lies and say she gets the scares from work

should i just tell her that i'm here for her but i need her to stop if she wants to be my friend

Answer 1

Tell the conselor what you have said here. That her dad beats her. It's about time to get help for her. She is in self-destruct mode. If the conselor won't listen, then you will have to report it to the police. Note that some states have mandatory laws where the authorities have to report the incident to the parents. If the parents are part of the problem, then in NY, for example they can seek an 'Order of Protection' through the State's District Attorney.

The district attorney may want to get her parent(s) involved in the case. The district attorney may let her know before contacting her parent(s). However, if getting her parents involved could put her in danger, be sure she explains that to the district attorney as soon as possible.

They may also wish to get a family conselor involved to get help for your friend. It is best to speak to your friend first and present her with the options, if she will accept them.

If you live in NYC call 311 for further assistance. You can call without giving your name and speak to someone about it. Most cities have hotlines for this for kids that need help. They will not ask for your name and give you the correct information for your situation.

Answer 2

If you're uncomfortable telling her parents, you need to talk to your councilor and express your concerns for her health and safety. This includes both her cutting behavior and her safety within the family. If she cuts herself too deep sometime or gets an infection that she's afraid to get treatment for, her life becomes what is at risk. Be the one who does the responsible thing and put your friends interests in the hands of a professional. Inform the councilor today.

Answer 3

First talk to her...have a heart to heart...cause honestly sometimes people do that for attention. Maybe she's feeling really awful about something and doesn't know how to properly express herself or is afraid to. If after you talk to her she's still behaving this way let her know that you're very worried about her and you're going to tell someone what's going on. This will give her a heads up that you're going to tell someone and she won't feel so betrayed as if you were going behind her back. This also gives her the opportunity to try and resolve the problem herself and speak up. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

you gotta tell her that sooner or later, more than likely sooner, she'll go too deep, she'll bleed to death, no one will be able to save her, and her friends, like you, will be crushed by her death, and will never fully recover, so for the love of friendship please stop. Also, tell her that the more she lies, the less you'll be able to help her, and the less you want to be her friend. If she cares at all about your friendship, she should at least stop lying. Also, tell her that if anyone finds out about her cutting, she would probably be put in the psych ward

Answer 5

One: Cuting is usually a trend unless they actually have a MAJOR problem behind it. If she has problems in her life or family then talk to a grown-up.
Two: It's wrong for her dad to beat her, if it's actually abuse then I would insist for you to call child protection even if your friend doesn't want to. Talk to someone and tell them everything and they'll call.
Three: Tell her to go see a doctor or something because cutting is a very unhealthy thing.

I SERIOUSLY recommend you talking to an adult.

Answer 6

You need to tell the counselor anyway. You need to explain that she may have an abusive relationship with her father, that is why you didn't tell them. You would be amazed at the inside knowledge that counselors have. Either way, if you don't get your friends some help soon, she won't be around to help!

Answer 7

Sweetheart, if you truly love your friend, you will seek some adult help. She has a serious condition and you can not help her yourself.

If she gets mad at you for going to an adult, she will thank you later for saving her life. Cutters have a serious problem and it could cost her life. If you can't tell her parents, talk to yours.

Answer 8

there's a holine she can call when she have the urge to cut herself and they would talk her out of cutting herself. she shold also have anything sharp out of her area. There are other helpful guide you can look up online at the website www.wikihow.com/stop-cutting-yourself.

Answer 9

Umm my terrific pals sure, yet even although i admire the ladies I carry out with, I wouldn't completely believe them. It sounds terrible yet i understand for a fact that they specially circumstances gossip approximately one yet another. the two way is say I easily have some pals who're the two honest climate pals and a few who're like sisters to me.

Answer 10

How do you know its not from work? It seems to me that you can't tell nobody about her problem. Well you need to before it gets worse. Tell her concler if you can't tell her parents.