how do u help a person forget childhood trauma?

Answer 1

see a professional who can coach you on this

Answer 2

You never will forget a trauma, it'll always be there. The best thing you can do is see a theripist to help you learn to forget. Think about happier times, not the trauma.

Answer 3

You can't. I was advised by a well meaning Priest to write everything down and deal with it. I ended up in the Hospital with a serious anxiety attack. I could not write the experiences down, they were to painful. The best advise is, to go into counseling, but be very careful when selecting a counselor, there are some bad apples in the barrel. Just be loving and supportive to this person that is the first step to healing.

Answer 4

You should consider if this is something you want to become involved in. Amateurs can do a lot of damage and impede someone's healing process. It may really be better to realize you can't help this person and let them find their own path.

That said, counseling skills are something anyone can learn. You need to realize, when someone is a victim of trauma, they don't forget it, they do learn to live with it, eventually to live beyond it and to be come a stronger person through it.

If you still choose to become involved, you need to realize they will heal at their own pace. Its a natural process. You can provide a safe place for them to talk. You can listen. One famous psychologist teaches "Unconditional Positive Regard", you listen and your attitude is one of positive regard. You don't judge, you don't tell them they need help, you don't tell them they need to heal or forget or get over it, you think about what a marvelous amazing, incredible awesome person you are listening to, you accept them and accept their story.

Eventually they can accept it to.

Sometimes you have to ask questions to keep them talking, but be careful here, its easy to realize something way before the person you are listening to is ready realize it for themselves.

My first advice is think carefully about whether this is something you should get involved it, it takes a lot of emotional energy to do this kind of work, and done poorly it can cause a lot more problems. For yourself you should be careful that a dependency doesn't develop where your friend wants more and more of your time to talk about their problems. That won't be healthy for either of you.

Everybody gets stronger from these kind of hurts, but the process of becoming stronger often seems to hurt more than the original pain.

I'm going to point you toward "The Structure of Magic" a book by Richard Bandler. Its simple and teaches some techniques that anyone can use. The reviews on Amazon.com about the author are accurate. I think you can learn some useful techniques from this book, but the challenge is to acquire wisdom about when to use them.

Do you have anyone you trust who you can talk to, to learn some of these skills from? I've also had good results by making an apointment to talk to a youth pastor and taking my friend with me.

I am very struck by the question, how do you help someone forget ... so much pain is caused by trying to forget. To live with the lie that it never happened. Healing requires remembering with brutal honesty what has happened, often it requires a resolution that it is not o.k. for it to happen again, and learning slowly to live beyond it.

How to help them forget ... Don't! Help them remember and help them find a life worht living beyond it.

Answer 5

You dont forget them, you learn techniques to help you deal with them. You admit that you are not at fault in any way for what happened, you were a child.

Answer 6

Seek therrapy.

Answer 7

if it was traumatic they will never forget it... and they should seek professional help to learn to live with it.

Answer 8

Beat it out of them with a baseball bat.